Pics From The Video Shoot For The Man’s Approach
Posted on July 31, 2010
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As you may already know, the new program for guys who want to approach and meet high quality women, attract them and make plans with them is called The Man’s Approach.
Based on the tremendous amount of feedback I’ve been getting from guys all over the world, it’s apparent that most guys really do not want to become pickup artists. They’re just normal guys who simply want to meet some terrific great women…instead of kicking themselves every time one comes along and they don’t meet her.
As long overdue as it is in the eyes of many, The Man’s Approach will be your complete blueprint for getting that right from now on.
Mark your calendars, because it will be launched worldwide on Friday, September 10th, 2010.
I’ll have more details later, but for now I thought I’d share some snapshots from last night’s video session. After all, any program that’s all about how to approach women, get their numbers and make plans with them had better have plenty of video, right?
Well, far be it from us to disappoint. You already know my “proof of concept” Emily (in brown). Meet Erika (in the red) and Claudia (in black):
All of these women are as sweet and friendly as they are good looking. In fact, that was a must. Claudia is actually pretty well known nationally for her modeling work, and Erika happens to be one of Emily’s good friends. So you’ve probably guessed that I hand-picked the women I instinctively knew would be perfect for the task at hand.
By the way, the other dude at dinner with us all is none other than Hugo, who you may recall won our worldwide photo contest last year. Guys submitted photos of women they met using what’s taught here at X & Y Communications, and Hugo was the Grand Champion. So hey, I invited him to take part in the demo vids with us. Very nice. As you’ll soon find out, he’s very much a normal guy, and did a great job in the videos, as did the ladies.
The vibe we were looking for was to show natural conversation in a typical, everyday setting…and just let what happens happen. After the interactions, there’s some discussion between us on what was said and done, how well it worked (or didn’t) and suggestions on how to go from good to great.
Going with that style of presentation, to me at least, represented the ultimate “best of both worlds” between running hidden cameras and simply staging rehearsed demos. It really turned out great, and ended up representing a truly innovative (and powerful) way of presenting this sort of content that you guys are sure to enjoy.
Oh, and one other thing. There’s actually another gal featured in The Man’s Approach named Celeste who was recently voted one of Maxim’s “home town hotties”. There are videos from an earlier shoot that feature her also. But I’ve got to keep at least some of what’s coming your way a surprise, so you’ll just have to wait until The Man’s Approach is formally released to meet her…
Be Good,
Scot
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The Chick Whisperer Podcast #38: Quit Making Things So Complicated
Posted on May 20, 2010
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When I called up the Adonis Effect’s Brad Howard and extended the long-overdue invitation to co-host the podcast with me, I also asked him to suggest a topic. This is pretty typical, since the shows are always best when we riff on whatever the co-host’s specialty is.
Well, Brad wasted no time when faced with this question.
“Oh, that’s an easy one. Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about how difficult we as guys try to make meeting and relating to women out to be. But really, it just doesn’t have to be all that hard, you know?”
I instinctively knew that was a winner of an idea.
After all, not only did I agree 100% with his opinion on the matter, we had never actually talked about it on the show.
So 52 minutes of recording later, that all had changed. Now you can listen to Episode 38 of the world famous Chick Whisperer podcast and decide for yourself whether we’re on to something here, or whether we’re completely off base.
But one thing’s for sure, if you don’t do any listening, then you certainly can’t do any deciding. Right?
Now, whether or not you agree that meeting and relating to women is complicated or not, getting your hands on this episode most definitely isn’t as difficult as you might think. All you need to do is hit iTunes and click the “subscribe” button.
The Chick Whisperer podcast even has “iPod friendly” titles and album art, so finding it amidst the thousands of other files is just about as uncomplicated as listening to it.
The iTunes page for The Chick Whisperer podcast is linked to from every graphic in this post. If you’d be so kind as to leave us a review, we’d be much obliged. Your input really does influence iTunes rankings.
And if you’re the type of guy who just isn’t so into iTunes, then no worries. There’s always that old standby, the RSS feed. You can click on the link below to subscribe over there:
Be Good,
Scot
P.S. Brad and I also cover a great voice mail question from Craig in Colorado on how to build a social circle and meet women FAST. Good stuff.
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Thoughts On Having Been In Europe When The Volcano Erupted
Posted on April 26, 2010
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Well, as of last night Emily and I are back in good ol’ San Antonio, having “survived” being “stranded” in Europe courtesy of that now infamous volcano in Iceland’s shenanigans.
A good number of you sent us very encouraging e-mails over the past week or so, encouraging us to “hang in there”, “be safe”, etc.
While I genuinely appreciate everyone’s concern, I have to come clean with something. Here it is: The past week hasn’t really been as big a nightmare as the media would have liked you to believe.
Not for us, at least.
In fact, we made the best of a few extra days in Europe and ended up actually enjoying it.
How’s that, you say? Weren’t there a few days of uncertainty there? Isn’t it true that everyone was utterly stuck wherever they were when the ash cloud hit the proverbial fan?
Well, yes…and sort of.
The Chick Whisperer Podcast # 37: MILFs And Cougars
Posted on March 26, 2010
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OK, so here it is. I’ve been meaning to have my good friend Brad Jackson on the show as a co-host for quite some time now.
So the other day I finally got on the phone and told him it was time to stop all the talk and get to a little more action, Jackson. A whopping sixty minutes later, episode #37 had emerged from the ashes of what truly was an epic podcasting session.
I’m going to tell it to you like it is. (Actually, both of us are, if you get right down to it.) What you are about to grace your iPod with is nothing short of the most straight-up, no-holds-barred discussion on both single-moms and cougars that’s ever invaded your eardrums.
Whether that sounds exceedingly pleasant or utterly horrifying to you, you’re probably right. But one thing’s for sure: The experience will be both an enlightening and and entertaining one for you.
And to make matters even more complicated, we went ahead and answered a particularly “touchy-feelie” voice mail from Lawrence in Santa Monica, who wants to know how to get a woman sexually interested in you without necessarily mating with her for life. Not a bad question there, Lawrence.
Well, with that all that’s really left to talk about is how to go to the RSS feed and subscribe. That’s pretty brain-dead simple. Just click on the link below and make it happen:
…or saunter on over to iTunes and get that show onto your iPod. As always, I’ve made the title “iPod friendly” so you’ll actually be able to find the thing once you download it:
The iTunes page for The Chick Whisperer podcast can be accessed by clicking on any of the graphics in this post, as always. While you’re there, please leave us a review. These really do influence iTunes rankings, so your opinion definitely matters.
Be Good,
Scot
The Magic Word That Leads To A Better Social Life
Posted on December 1, 2009
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I’ve been a bit of a workaholic lately. I bring this up because I’m tired after my work weeks and don’t always feel the energy.
A friend of mine recently called and said “Hey, Austin, how would you like to go do this zombie walk?” What’s a “zombie walk”? As it turns out, it’s a several hour affair where you rip up the shirt, stain it with fake blood, white stage makeup, and wander around aimlessly looking for babes and braiiiins. At 5pm on that certain Friday my friend called, however, I wasn’t really in the mood to commit to such a thing. But I said “yes”…because I knew I had to.
And here is why.
“Yes” is the secret word that will bestow social riches upon you. Your friends, girlfriends, and acquaintances are likely throwing interesting opportunities at you all the time. Sometimes these opportunities sound like more work than fun. I mean tearing up a shirt, wearing make up…who wants to do all that, especially on short notice? But I went for it, and once I got going I had some momentum and had a really kick ass time.
So next time you’re asked something by your friends, say “yes”. Always say “yes”. It’s the secret word that will lead to more opportunities.
–Austin
Field Report: “I Presently Have Six Quality Women In My Life”
Posted on November 17, 2009
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This email is in reference to your News Letter about guys learning information to meet quality women and not applying what is taught to the real world. I am 100% living proof that your advice works. I have developed leaps and bounds after following your wisdom and reading your news letters. Your one on one counseling is superb. With that said, I presently have 6 quality women in my life. I know it’s not about the numbers, but the quality that counts. However, when guys start becoming successful, it happens, and a new learning process starts for yet another level. It has taken me three years to get here. Truth be told, if I can do it, anyone can.
One very important lesson that I have learned in the attraction process is for a guy to gain knowledge from other successful men and then, more importantly, apply this information to his life. Scot, what you and other experts have taught me is that it first starts with me learning from others and then acting on the gained knowledge to become a better man. There is no quick launch method, no attraction pill, and there is no one thing I can say or do to attract women. Who you are and how you attract women is all about learning and applying; making it part of who you are. I have learned that 20% of your time should be spent gaining book knowledge and 80% of your time should be spent applying what is learned to real life, with real females. The Army has a saying: a mediocre plan timely executed is far better than the most detailed plan not executed at all. Here is some general information that I have learned. If I had advice for those starting out, it is this:
1) If your desire is to attract better women, then become a better man that attracts women. The information is out there for those who want to learn. Make what you learn who you are in the real world. Learn by applying.
2) Learn to stop analyzing your actions with women, let go, and have fun. Be creative and become a kid again. Learn to be fun with women. Make meeting women a fun game. Adopt an attitude that you will put a smile on every woman’s face that you interact with in some way. I am living proof that it is fun to learn methods, apply, and spend time with quality women.
3) Get out and test everything. You must fail before you can succeed with women. Failure is your best friend. It’s tough love. Believe me, I learned to be cocky and funny the hard way. I turned more women off because I did not know how and when to apply. But experience prevailed! Even more important is learning to become masculine, naturally confident, and how to make it fun in almost any given situation. Learn creative conversations, spontaneity, intrigue, and how to shock her in a fun way. Learn to become the “man” of a woman’s dream and what that means.
4) Know your strength and weakness with women. Write out a plan to overcome your weaknesses and break your weaknesses down into small steps. Learning to be successful with women is a process. Develop small processes that work, add them to your entire attraction process system, and build upon it. You must learn attraction basics, develop a process that works for you, and lead women through it.
5) It is important to know that there are lots of quality women in the world and fewer quality guys who get it. Take advantage of these odds by becoming an attractive man that women want to be around. Know what you want and become a man that attracts her.
I have learned so much and I believe it’s time to tell my story. I still have far to go to where I want to be. As you know, it all works on levels and I am not there yet. However, I am also nowhere near the bottom and I have taken all that I have learned to heart. Right now life is fun and my biggest challenge is learning to manage my “hanging out” (dating) life. I have learned to not date anymore, but to simply hang-out when I find someone that I want to spend my time with. I have learned its not money or how much time, however, it is the “experience” that counts. I have learned to develop the experience by becoming spontaneous, intriguing, interesting, fun, and safe. I focus on making myself more excellent. I have learned it’s about having fun and relaxing. I approach women as it being exciting to find out who they are and challenging to take a woman through the attraction process. I have learned that the process is an adventure that is everywhere and anywhere I make it out to be.
– Kevin Kelly (Colorado Springs, CO)
Lt. Col. Kevin Kelly is currently on active duty in the U.S. Army in Colorado, having recently returned from yearlong tour in Afghanistan. He’s finishing up a Ten-Plus program with me and obviously doing great. I was pleasantly surprised to receive this detailed account from him in last night’s e-mail, and it’s reprinted with his permission. Thanks for your service to our country, and for sharing your insights, Kevin. Terrific stuff.
As far as your success with women goes, if you’re interested in going from where you are right now to where you want to be then Ten-Plus is probably right for you also. It’s a guided plan of action with guaranteed results. For more, check out dating-coaches.com. or contact me personally at scot@deservewhatyouwant.com.
Presence Vs. Attention = Happy Women Everywhere
Posted on October 25, 2009
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Having spent the last year of my life on entrepreneurial pursuits, I’ve learned some hard lessons about keeping a woman happy. At the height of my working tirades I’d get a call from my girlfriend at the time and I’d keep clicky clacking away on the computer. I’d talk and I’d try to stay in the conversation. I figured she wanted some of my attention and time and in my mind, I thought I was giving it to her. This didn’t work.
I started to ask myself, why? Attention without presence is disrespectful. It sent the message that the other person isn’t as important as whatever I was doing. It made them feel less valuable in my life.
Sometimes I can’t be present. My mind goes a hundred miles an hour and it takes time to calm down. During these situations I inform the woman (or man, this is a general social skill) that I just finished or am in the middle of doing something. It’s consuming me and I set a specific time when I expect I’ll be ready to give them my full presence. People are respectful of this.
Otherwise I step away from what I’m doing and go to another room and have the conversation. The quality of the conversation goes up greatly from there. And with quality it’s easy to end it in a timely manner and get back to what I’m doing. Everyone wins.
So next time, give your presence not your attention. It’s the respectful thing to do.
–Austin
Just Say “No” To Infant Circumcision
Posted on October 14, 2009
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When Emily and I decided to have our son Scot, Jr. at home, we were confronted with the question that all new parents of little boys have to deal with: Should we have the baby circumcised or not?
This led to my researching the idea for the first time in my entire life. Most of us here in the United States have been socialized to somewhat blindly accept that circumcision is a “given” when a newborn boy enters the world.
But as it turns out, one of the first things I discovered in my research was that over the past decade the rate of circumcision of male infants in the U.S. has plummeted from 90% to 50%. This statistic stands even as the vast majority of other nations in the world have all but eliminated the practice as the “norm”.
This caught my attention. After all, having been circumcised as a newborn myself I’d never really given it much thought. I, like so many others, had accepted it as “normal”.
Well, upon doing due diligence to the topic I was utterly shocked by what I discovered.
Circumcision is decidedly not the “simple, painless procedure that only took a minute” that we often assume it is.
The amount of tissue that is removed from the biologically natural penis is way more than I ever knew. Check it out, guys. The next time you’re in the shower take a look at the “railroad tracks” on the ventral side of your unit (where the urethra passes through). That’s a scar, dude.
Further, as it turns out the foreskin plays a crucial role in sexual enjoyment for both the man and woman. When it’s removed, so is that potential for the ultimate sexual satisfaction we were born with. Here is an objective study that shows this to be true.
Next, because of the actual physiological nature of the foreskin, removing it does not simply involve “clearing away some extra skin”. In fact, it is viscerally attached to the shaft and the glans of the penis in a way that creates a mucous membrane underneath.
This means that it has to be peeled backwards away from the head of the penis in order to be removed. If you’ve got your thinking cap on, you’re already shuddering at the thought of this.
Worse, over 50% of all children who endure the procedure do so with minimum (if any) anesthesia, presumably due to concerns over “infant safety”. And even kids who are supposedly numbed down ahead of time tend to show clear indications that any anesthesia they received was clearly not sufficient.
And finally…the clincher: There is no established, proven medical reason to perform this procedure.. Most counterclaims cite cleanliness issues, which is ironic since the country with the highest incidence of infant male circumcision (the U.S.) is also perhaps the one most obsessed with taking several showers per day. All kidding aside, effective hygiene of the uncircumcised penis is far from complicated.
Ultimately, you ask most North American parents why they elected to have the procedure performed, the vast majority will tell you it was because “it’s just normal to”, or “so he can look like his dad”. I’ve even heard “because it’s cuter that way”.
I’ve decided to personally do my part in spreading the word about what male infant circumcision truly involves, so that parents everywhere can make an informed decision when their moment comes to make that decision on behalf of their newborn sons.
My new friend Marilyn Milos from NoCirc.org shared a video with me that I’ve posted for you below. Be advised that even though the effort is made to provide a bit of “comic relief” courtesy of Penn and Teller, parts of this are very difficult to watch–especially when they show the actual procedure being performed.
Nonetheless, I urge you to watch it–especially if you are planning to be a parent anytime in the future:
Make no mistake, I fully get that some circumcisions are performed on religious grounds. That’s the way it is.
But in a world where the very worthy cause of abolishing female circumcision takes center stage, at the very least we owe it to our sons to let them make their own decision about cutting their penises or not. I didn’t even pierce my daughter’s ears when she was a baby, and many other parents don’t either…even as they take infant male circumcision for granted. So you can see how important an issue this is for parents to be informed about.
By the way, if you are indeed anticipating the hospital birth of a son in the near future, make sure you bring this topic up with your attending physician. Amazingly, we know of at least one boy who was circumcised without the parents even having been asked. Perhaps this isn’t so amazing after all when one considers that circumcision is a billable procedure, of course.
If anything, it’s my sincere hope to have caught your attention today. Infant male circumcision really is an area where the vast majority of us really are under-informed.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
Chick Whispering: Can You Really Figure Women Out?
Posted on September 26, 2009
Filed Under Announcements, Men Attracting Women, Video Blogs | 1 Comment
Well, if you’re a guy you can’t exactly crawl inside a woman’s skin and become one in order to find out what’s truly on her mind and what motivates her (at least not usually).
But that’s not to say you necessarily have to be completely lost when it comes to gaining some true insight into understanding women better.
That’s right. You can forget the “old school” thinking that women are a “question surrounded by a quandary, wrapped in an enigma”.
Maybe you’ve lived your entire life assuming there was no chance of figuring women out. I’m here to tell you that you’ve been lied to all this time.
After all, isn’t it true that both genders tend to pronounce their own kind as “simple” and/or “easy to figure out”?
What if all it took this entire time was getting outside of our own desires and agendas and simply taking the time to observe and to process the kind of behaviors and mindsets we see time and time again in women on a regular basis?
Maybe that all sounds complicated, but it doesn’t have to be. I’ve just release an entire package on understanding women better called Chick Whispering. Watch this video for the complete lowdown:
Chick Whispering started out as a 214-page e-book, but has since developed into the definitive program on understanding women featuring ten extra content modules as well. But I’ve still kept the price point at $47.
You’ve said you want more high-quality programs at a price that is accessible to as many guys as possible. Chick Whispering flat-out delivers. And, of course, results are still guaranteed by my unconditional 365 day money-back promise.
Chick Whispering was, of course, sponsored by The Chick Whisperer podcast. Therefore its no coincidence that I got a fresh new episode of the show in the editing stages right now. As fortune would have it, I got one of the most respected women in the world of men’s dating and seduction advice to co-host this show–specifically to talk about this topic: “Are women really so complicated?” Stay tuned…
Be Good,
Scot McKay
The X & Y Communications Asia Tour 2009 Kicks Off
Posted on September 1, 2009
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OK, let’s face it. In order to “go on vacation” Emily and I pretty much need to get out of town.
Actually, we pretty much need to get out of the country. That’s just the way it is around here.
But then again, when you love your job as much as we do, there’s really no hardline differentiation between “work” and “play”. So when we planned our latest global escapade a few months ago, we thought about how we could combine some real adventure (aka “R & R” in our vernacular) with the opportunity to learn a lot and, of course…shoot LOTS of video and do LOTS of interviews.
So it’s off to the Pacific Rim with our happies.
We’re splitting today, actually. The Mist Enshrouded Mountain-Top Fortress That Is X & Y Communications will be entrusted to “Brutus The Liquid Metal Housesitter” and his trusty Rottweiler “Killer” (well not really, but close) and away we go.
After a “short hop” from San Antonio to New York City, we catch the express to Beijing, China where we plan on hangin’ out at the Great Wall, taking some amazing video and meeting some terrific people.
Then, it’s off to Thailand where we can’t wait to eat enjoy the rich Thai culture and, again, talk to lots of folks. Look for vids from the infamous “Sky Bar” in Bangkok, remote natural reserves and an “undisclosed beach location”.
After that, we get to spend the day in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia; where we’ll visit the Petronas Tower and take in the rich culture of that country (which we assume are unrelated events).
KL is actually a built-in stopover on the way to Hong Kong, where we’ll close out the trip. HK is a place that has always been on our “must see” list and yet another incredible opportunity to talk to people and do interviews.
On the “rebound”, we’ll have some time in New York and then it’s straight back to San Antonio with our ragged, jetlagged selves.
All told, we’ll be gallivanting around the Northern Hemisphere from today until September 15th. So all of this is long for “our phones are turned off, and we probably won’t be Twittering as much and/or answering e-mails with such razor-sharp precision for a couple of weeks.” But when we DO Tweet over the course of the next couple of weeks, we’ll make it count…you can bet on that.
On the flip side of all this Papa is going to be well-rested and WAY, WAY less cranky. And we’re pretty sure you’ll get some kickin’ video blogs and podcast joy out of the transaction.
Meanwhile, normal X & Y Communications operations are business as usual, of course. Victor and his first-class Customer Service Team are at your service processing orders and taking names with their typical legendary precision.
Talk to you soon.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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