The Guide To Speed Dating Success
Posted on January 2, 2009
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(This post originated as a correspondence on speed dating between two X&Y team members. I have speed-dated on and off for approximately two years and observed the curious dynamic involved. I have left feeling like I found my “100” and left wondering why I wasted two hours of valuable SportsCenter rerun time. I have attended feeling like I could conquer the world, and attended three days out of the ICU. So without further ado…)
The event…
The format varies by organization–some have longer (8-10 min) vs. shorter (4-5 min) individual dates, some allow one-on-one time with everyone there whereas others will only put you across from a fraction of the ladies present, some have an “intermission” for unstructured interaction, others don’t. You get the picture.
Most events are bracketed by age range (e.g. 25-35) or other demographic characteristics (race, religion, professional status). Age ranges are not absolute but not infinitely flexible—a 37 year old could attend a 25-35 event, a 45 year old is pushing the limit.
The Chick Whisperer #26–The Dude Whisperer
Posted on December 26, 2008
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About a month ago, you probably heard about the book Fireworks With Females by Slade Shaw and Mirabelle Summers of Meet Your Sweet.
Well, having read the book it didn’t take me long to figure out that Mirabelle understands us guys pretty well. Basically, as I see it she’s “The Dude Whisperer”. So since she likely understands how women operate as well, I figured doing a TCW show with her was a “no-brainer”.
Besides, I’ve frankly been dying for an excuse to bust on someone over there at 000Relationships for naming their stuff “Meet Your Sweet” and putting a bunch of little red hearts all over it.
So this was pretty much the best excuse ever to do a show. That and the fact it has been two months since I got around to recording one.
Alright, so enough talking. This show is packed to the gills with real-world stuff that will improve your game today if you let it.
Get it by either going to the feed and subscribing, or via iTunes.
Actually, iTunes is the way to go if you can, and you can get there by using any of the graphics on this post. While you’re there, please leave us a review…preferably good. I’ve figured out these actually help iTunes rankings, so it’s a great way to support the show.
Be Good,
Scot
P.S. Did you download the FREE Twiduction e-book yet on how to meet women on Twitter? Over 1000 other people have so far, and it has only been a few days. Get on my newsletter and it’s yours. For real…Twitter is a great way to meet high-quality women.
Twiduction: How To Meet Women On Twitter [Free E-Book]
Posted on December 23, 2008
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As you already know, we talk a lot about online dating around here. As a matter of fact, we sort of live and breathe it.
We’re also sort of into social networking. Just a little bit. You can find us on Facebook, MySpace, and–most recently–Twitter.
But here’s the million-dollar question: Why hasn’t anyone figured out how to leverage Twitter as an online dating site?
I mean, it’s like a no-brainer. No kidding.
Yeah, yeah. I realize the “ratio” is terrible. So is your “competition”, believe me.
And I also realize that the idea of getting social proof on there looks really intimidating. Well, it doesn’t have to be.
You may also be wondering how much you can get done in a bunch of 140-character pieces. Let’s just say your first e-mails to women on Match.com are probably too bloated anyway, and this is just what the doctor ordered.
So if the “doctor” ordered it, what’s the prescription? Well, you got the “fever” to meet hotties on Twitter, and the only cure is Twiduction: How To Meet Women On Twitter.
Fortunately, unlike a real “doctor” there’s no “copay”, and I don’t need your insurance card. Forget that. I feel about doctors much like Erin Brockovich feels about lawyers. Then again, ditto on the lawyers, too.
But the important thing here is that what I originally envisioned as a four part blog series ended up being A LOT more than that. The more I wrote, the more I realized there was more to say than I had expected.
Ultimately, it became a full-on e-book. 73 pages worth.
Pretty much, it’s a “comprehensive guide” instead of an “overview”. I couldn’t stop writing…the ideas just kept on flooding the circuits.
And I mean, sheesh…I launched thing on Twitter (where else?) two nights ago, and within 24 hours I had e-mails from at least three techie guys informing me of the minute details I’d missed.
So what did I do? I added them in, of course. This is the friggin’ “Second Edition” already, for cryin’ out loud.
So I hope the techies are happy. Basically, even if you have no idea what a Twitter is, you’re about to get the complete hook-up in this book–iincluding the full tutorial on the site. Seriously.
All that’s long for, “instead of some blog posts, you’re fixin’ to get immediate gratification”.
Yes, based on that last sentence you’ve probably just come to a valid conclusion, so allow me to confirm your suspicions: The book is F-R-E-E. All you do is click here, and getchasum.
You enter your e-mail address on that page and start getting my newsletter…but you should be doing that already. Then, once you hit the button that takes you to the next page it’s all blue-sky from there.
Twiduction: How To Meet Women On Twitter will be staring straight at you in all its PDF glory, ready to be downloaded securely to your desktop and devoured.
And once again, in case you missed it the first time, that “devouring” is to be done for F-R-E-E.
So have fun with this one, guys. And ladies, you’ll likely enjoy it too, despite its title.
Whatever you do, “follow” me on Twitter and I’ll “follow” you back automatically: http://www.twitter.com/scotmckay
You can even “follow” Emily while you’re at it. She also “auto-follows”: http://www.twitter.com/emilymckay
More soon.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Ladies, be sure to click the banner below and watch Emily’s new video. I tweaked it a bit and made it even better.
Online Dating Success…A Real-World 76% Response Rate?
Posted on December 16, 2008
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OK, here it is. I get a lot of heat from certain people regarding the claim of being able to achieve a 60-80% response rate from Match.com. Apparently, some guys believe that’s a notion so preposterous as to be flat-out impossible.
Actually, some women even think it’s a bit over-the-top to expect that.
Well, let me take this opportunity to tell you I believe you can do it. Moreover, the solution is well within your grasp, courtesy of Online Dating Domination.
But hey, I can understand why some would be skeptical. After all, most guys quit online dating in frustration…never having gotten a single date from the experience to show for it.
And it’s not like that’s really their fault. After all, the way some of these dating sites are set up, it really looks like the deck is stacked against us guys from the very beginning…with the interface having been designed almost invariably to appeal to female clientele, who are always harder to get to sign up.
All in all, it’s hard to portray yourself as the man you truly are, and even harder to get the mission-critical first e-mails right.
Taking everything I just shared into consideration, I wanted to share an e-mail with you I just received from a guy who is seeing some amazing success online. Better yet, he’s getting the job done after only a month and a half.
I really love it when guys outperform my “preposterous” claims. It’s even better when they do so in record time, in a notoriously competitive metro area (San Francisco) and–get this–are meeting super hot women in the process. I deleted the screen names he provided here for obvious reasons, but I’ll tell you…this guy has very good taste.
Hey Scot,
Hope all’s well on your end as we cruise into the holidays. I have some comments and then some quick questions…
First of all, I have to say that although I’ve only been exploring it for a month now, I’m pleasantly surprised with online dating. Before giving it a go I wasn’t sure what to expect, with some people hailing it as a great weapon in one’s dating arsenal (yourself included), and others out there who complain about nobody replying and there being only fat chicks.
Thus far, I’ve seen those negatives to be totally bogus. I’m batting 17/21 (76%) for initial replies and about 11/22 (52%) that I’ve already met or appear to be heading in that direction with.
I’ve met three of these women so far this past weekend and they were all great women…very smart and looked much better than their profiles, two being undeniably beautiful, the other more of an intense “cute”.
The one I saw today was drop dead gorgeous in person and very fun and we laughed a lot, as I did with the other two as well.
The other two have already expressed interest in meeting up again, and I suspect the woman I met today will be similar. Thanks a lot for the cool ideas in your products that played a definite role in getting me thus far down the “path”.
—Michael
So there you have it. Stone-cold proof that you can get ridiculous online dating success…if you have the right plan.
And what’s up with the exact percentages? I’m grateful that you ran the numbers Michael, but I hope you aren’t taking a sliderule on dates. Considering he’s in SF, he can probably perform complex calculus equations on his iPhone anyway.
So major kudos to Michael. If you’ve got success stories, I want to hear ‘em. If your success stories still have yet to be written, I strongly suggest you get your hands on Online Dating Domination and stop putting that success off any longer.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Ladies, be sure to click the banner below and watch Emily’s new video. It’s a lot of fun.
Mainstream “Dating Experts” And The Mama’s Boys Who Love Them
Posted on December 15, 2008
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Over Thanksgiving, I was in my hotel room flipping through the small amount of channels on the television. I stopped on one of those morning shows. You know the typical ones. The people are over the top happy, Rachael Ray cooks a roast in two minutes, and corny jokes are made.
So right before I was about to change over to Sportscenter, I heard that they were bringing on two dating experts to talk about a couple of things. The topics to be discussed were: what it means when he is crying, why he texts you, first date manners, and what is he or she really saying.
I had to stay tuned in. After the commercial, the two “experts” were there. It was a guy and a girl. The guy was a very metro looking guy who was a DJ on Cosmo satellite radio. Strike one and two, trust me. The girl I believe either worked for Cosmo magazine or something similar to that nature. Before they opened their mouths I had an open mind to see what they had to say. Needless to say, before I get into it, they began arguing with each other like two 8 year olds.
Motivation Turbo-Charger Part 1: Getting Going
Posted on December 7, 2008
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I want to make a confession. I have been putting off writing this article for about a week. I know that I have lots to write about, and yet I didn’t write this article until this very moment. I even made up all those “other” things to do around my office to avoid writing this.
And then it suddenly struck me: This is exactly how most guys put their love life on hold.
Some immerse themselves in work, some play computer games or watch porn on the Internet, and some collect any and all kinds of knowledge about picking up and seducing women, with little practical application.
Other guys actually get a lot of action going for a while, but then their motivation starts to subside.
Can you relate to any of these situations? If you can, then carry on reading. (And if you can’t relate, then you’re probably already very successful with women!)
Emily Is On Christian Carter’s Interview Series This Month
Posted on December 4, 2008
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You’ve probably seen the banners on this blog for the past couple of weeks, but now that December is finally here it’s time for the official word: Yes…Emily is Christian Carter’s guest for his “Interviews With Dating Experts” series this month.
For you ladies who are reading, this probably requires little explanation. Christian Carter’s book Catch Him & Keep Him is ubiquitous on the Internet, the subject of countless Google ads and blog reviews. And women everywhere read it and rave about it.
If you’re a guy, you’ve probably still heard of Christian Carter. If not, think of how killer it is to be on the David DeAngelo “Interviews With Dating Gurus” series if you’re a guy and you get the idea.
Essentially, were we standup comedians (which we’re not, at least officially), this would be like getting on the Letterman show. Nice.
So you can imagine how stoked Emily was to be contacted by Christian and invited to be on his program.
Better yet, the preliminary phone interview apparently went well enough that she was booted to the head of the line–meaning she is on this month.
So never mind the fact that papa has been burnin’ the midnight oil getting Emily’s new Attraction Makeover program ready to go in time for the release of the Christian Carter CD in a couple of weeks.
The important thing is that if you are a woman, and you have been kickin’ around the idea of snagging a copy of Catch Him & Keep Him for yourself, then now is the time.
Christian hands out the first month of his interview series for FREE when you get the book, which can only mean–yeppers–you get a shiny new copy of Emily’s interview CD for the asking if you jump on board this month.
Now, here’s something interesting about this whole thing. Christian actually flew Emily and I out to LA a couple of weeks ago to record this interview live. Having been there, I can tell you a couple of things.
For starters, Emily threw down some serious game and the interview itself is killer. It’s chock-full of original content, too. But you’d expect that from her.
What’s more, though, I have to tell you that Christian Carter and his team are a class act through and through. Christian knows his stuff for real, and my guess is that he’s got more “game” than 90% of the PUA gurus teaching the guys out there.
Basically, he gets it when it comes to women.
So giving yourself the gift of Catch Him & Keep Him this holiday season is basically a win/win situation for you if 1) you are a woman and 2) you are ready to meet the man of your dreams.
Be Good,
Scot
P.S. If you have been on Emily’s monthly Keys To Bliss series and miss it, I’ve got good news. It’s coming back…this month. And this time it’s bigger, better, faster and more more MORE. Stay tuned…
X & Y On The Fly #40–When Kids Are In The Picture
Posted on November 30, 2008
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This episode represents a bit of a change of pace for Emily and I. This time we talk about all the potential issues associated with dating when you have kids.
…Or when the person you are dating has kids.
…Or when you and the other person have kids together.
Basically, this show contains both dating and relationship advice, and will be helpful to those of you who are already married and leading the “family life” as well as those of you who are enjoying your wildly successful dating lives.
Wait a minute…who says married people can’t have a “wildly successful dating life”? Well, not us. And fear not…there’s more on that in there also.
So getchasum. This is a good one, based on feedback we’ve been getting. We’ve actually had the show posted for a couple of weeks now, but I’ve just gotten around to blogging about it.
As always, hit our main page to get in on the newsletter and grab your free copy of How To Deal With Breakups. I’ll be changing that soon, so consider this the “final call”.
By the way, the next XYotF is going to be called “Movie Moments”. Look forward to some creativity there, for sure. Emily’s ready for this one.
And yes…the next episode of The Chick Whisperer is in the works also. It will be called “The Dude Whisperer”, and I’ll leave the rest to you to figure out for now…
Be Good,
Scot
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Stop Sucking It In
Posted on November 23, 2008
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Hey guys, today I want you to think to yourself if have you at any point recently looked into the mirror and sucked your stomach in?
Don’t worry guys, I’ve done it. I think we all have, trying to make ourselves look better–if only for that moment.
However, there is a problem with this. We are essentially fooling ourselves into believing we are in better shape than we truly are. I’ve found that if I have been doing lots of fitness work, eating right, watching less TV etc., then I will still suck my gut in front on the mirror, and it makes me feel good.
“Wow, I’m looking good at the moment.”