Thank You For Your Contribution To Limiting Global Population Growth
Posted on January 3, 2012
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[Ed. Note: Fair warning, what you are about to read is a mostly
satirical piece. You’re going to need to activate your sense of
humor before proceeding.]
Hey you know, with the global population now estimated to be at
about six-and-a-half billion (and growing), it’s become critical
that we as a human race do SOMETHING to keep the population from
exploding at an even greater rate than it has been lately.
What with people living something like twice as long on average as
they did roughly a century ago, the need for this is even more
apparent…as anyone can plainly see.
The formula I propose goes something like this:
It’s A Girl!
Posted on December 22, 2011
Filed Under Announcements, Being Cool, Cool Stuff | 3 Comments
Sarah Victoria Annabelle McKay arrived on Monday, 12/19 at 9:50 pm CST. Both Emily and the baby are doing fine.
Here’s a pic of her when she’s literally less than 5 minutes old.
Here’s another when she was a few hours old.
…And another taken just this afternoon.
The No-Nonsense, Non-”Metro” Guide To “Manscaping” Your Nether Regions
Posted on December 2, 2011
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The term “manscaping” tends to inspire a bit of “metrophobia” in most normal guys.
But hey…all we’re really talking about for the purposes of this blog post is what’s going to be MORE attractive to feminine women, not less so.
So there’s really no good reason to “fear the ‘scape”. Every man should give some normal, rational thought to it.
This all means that at the VERY LEAST you want to keep your “nether regions” trimmed. If it’s a jungle” down there, it discourages women from performing oral sex.
The big question though, of course, always comes down to whether or not to go for it and just shave yourself clean down there.
This isn’t for everyone, but if the idea intrigues you here’s what you’ll need to think about.
The Chick Whisperer #48 — Dating Again…For The Very First Time
Posted on October 7, 2011
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Here we go again…it’s time for another episode of The world-famous Chick Whisperer podcast.
This one is called “Dating Again…For The Very First Time”, and my guest is none other than Bobby Rio from TSBmag.com. He’s a completely authentic, down-to-earth guy who I’ve hung out with in person and really like. That pretty much makes him the perfect cat for this particular show.
This show is specifically for you guys who are either young and just getting started out, coming off a long-term relationship and jumping back into the dating world or simply flat-out late to the party.
I wouldn’t exactly call it “The ‘Newbie’ Episode” because I firmly believe that NONE of us are exactly NON-experts at appreciating women…which is 90% of the whole idea when it comes to succeeding with them.
But I WOULD say this show will give you an EXCELLENT head-start on the fundamentals to actually getting started and–more importantly–getting BETTER with women.
Plus, Bobby and I answer a terrific voicemail from Austin in San Antonio (try to wrap your head around THAT idea, fellow Texans out there) on how to meet and attract high quality women at college. More great stuff for you younger guys out there, for sure.
As always, The Chick Whisperer podcast has “iPod friendly” titles and newer and “friskier” album art, so finding it amidst the thousands of other files on your 64GB MP3 player is just about as uncomplicated as listening to it.
The iTunes page for The Chick Whisperer podcast is linked to above and from the graphic at the top of the post. If you’d be willing to leave a review on iTunes I’d greatly appreciate it. Send an e-mail to me at scot@deservewhatyouwant.com when you will, and I’ll send you the 9 “retired” episodes of the show for free.
And if you’re the type of guy who just isn’t so into iTunes, then no worries. There’s always that old standby, the RSS feed. You can click on the link below to subscribe over there:
Be Good,
Scot
About FHM’s New List Of The “100 Sexiest Women In The World”
Posted on May 11, 2011
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Several days ago FHM released their annual list of the women their editors consider to be the 100 sexiest on Earth.
The key words in that last sentence were “their editors consider”.
As is typically the case when FHM, Maxim and/or AskMen publish lists like this, the comments pour in by the bucketload…mostly from guys who are shocked and appalled by some of the choices. Invariably, they also have a few ideas of their own on who should have been included.
As for me? I pretty much take it for what it is–an opinion piece–and move on. I mean, this latest FHM list was released five days ago and I just now figured that out…accidentally.
But I do think there is one MAJOR takeaway available from lists like this: The truth is that even if some magazine considers a certain woman to be among the 100 hottest on Earth, there’s someone else out there who thinks she doesn’t deserve to be on the list.
In fact, I’ll take it on step further for you. Invariably, whenever lists like these come along I can rifle through the “winners” or “inductees” or whatever you want to call them and find at least half of them utterly unattractive.
The way I like to describe this phenomenon is as follows. “If [insert name of anorexic, surgically-enhanced, horse-faced model whose face looks like a boy’s with too much makeup on here] showed up at my door buck naked with six-pack of Spaten Optimator I don’t even think I’d get aroused…at all.”
Now don’t get me wrong. The other 50% of the women on the list are probably well-deserving in my opinion…except don’t get me started on AskMen’s choice to term their respective list the “Most Desirable” when so many they “enshrine” are known viragos with recurring addiction problems. If you’re going to use the word “Desirable”, there has to be a talent contest and a thought question round to go with the swimsuit competition. It can’t just be a beauty contest.
In any case, it’s worth serious consideration that OVER HALF of the “Sexiest Women In The World” aren’t all that sexy…not to me or to a dogpile of other guys, for that matter. And believe me, I’ve run this experiment with dozens of other dudes who end up laughing to themselves in agreement with me.
To be clear, that percentage of women who are NOT perceived to be all that sexy by a certain guy may vary, as will the exact women on his list.
Actually, though, that’s the beauty of it (if you’ll pardon the pun).
Here’s the bottom line. No matter WHO a woman is, and no matter HOW MANY guys think she’s attractive–or even extremely so–there’s ANOTHER cadre of dudes out there saying, “Meh…”.
Even if she’s on the freaking “Top 100″ list.
So here’s where I throw you a curve.
Let’s turn our attention from FHM’s list of women to YOU now.
If the “100 Sexiest Women On Earth” are subject to debate, then there’s NO WAY, NO HOW that ANY of us can expect to be attractive to 100% of every member of the opposite gender we strike up a conversation with.
But based on how much of a whammy the whole idea of “rejection” lays on so many of us, you’d think virtually none of us had figured that out yet.
In fact, I dare say most of us HAVEN’T.
But here’s the truth of the matter. No matter WHO you are, if you let the opinion of ONE PERSON shape how you feel about your own ability to attract MOTOS (members of the opposite sex) in general, then you’re barking up the wrong tree…completely.
In fact, I don’t even care if you’ve been “rejected” hard–complete with direct insults–by several women, gentlemen. Those few DO NOT speak for the many.
If you do the best with what you have and use “the four-letter word women wish men would use more often” (i.e. soap) then you CAN attract women. Not ALL of them…but MANY of them.
And ladies? Don’t think for a minute that skinny “supermodels” with no hindparts whatsoever are universally attractive to all men. They’re not.
In fact, I’ll be completely honest with you. Maybe I’ve been hiding under a rock (in fact, I’m sure I have…I don’t watch much TV or whatever) but I’ve never even heard of the chick that FHM voted #1 on their list. And guess what? I’m not the only guy who isn’t even attracted to her, according to the comments. But someone obviously disagreed…a lot.
All of that said, however, I don’t care who you are. If Lady Gaga and Miley Cyrus belong among the “100 Sexiest Women In The World” then you’d better pack your things…the world is about to end.
But ironically, I don’t think they OR any of the other women who I don’t think belong on the list REALLY CARE what I think. They’re not going to feel “rejected” because some dating coach in Texas isn’t so impressed.
After all, they didn’t get on that list for no reason at all. SOMEONE voted them on. The fact that it wasn’t me is really irrelevant. I think just about all the women on the list are doing just fine when it comes to finding some other guy to go out with.
Be Good,
Scot
P.S. Waiting on my graphic artist to finalize some BRAND NEW album art for both of our main podcasts. Then I’ll roll out new shows for y’all…
Women Really Are BORED…And They’re Waiting For YOU To Approach Them.
Posted on May 8, 2011
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If you subscribe to my newsletter, which you should–especially if you’re a guy, then you probably caught my bit a week or so ago about how women are generally a lot more BORED on a regular basis than we think. Even the most attractive ones.
When you get right down to it, if and when you get over yourself and say hello to a woman you find attractive you’re very likely to find that she’s THRILLED you showed up. No kidding. She probably hasn’t had anything that exciting happen ALL DAY.
Still, a number of you chose to e-mail me with your doubts. In fact, enough of you still believe that every remotely attractive woman out there must be living like a “rock star” that I felt compelled to post a few of the responses to that newsletter that I got from various WOMEN who read it.
So that’s exactly what I’m about to do. Read ‘em and weep…or be massively and powerfully encouraged. Your choice.
“Bored? So very true. I’m totally sick of men looking and not touching. What I mean is men who look like they want to say something but don’t do anything about it. Lots of times! I mean there are some duds mixed in but there are some men I see that are right up my alley. I am DYING for some excitement or some sort of diversion from my day. But to no avail.”
“OMG Scot!!! You are soo right, us girls are soo BORED! We just want a man to pay us some attention in an interesting way but the majority of men these days need a bomb underneath them to make a move. Whats wrong with men today? They dont know how to be men anymore or know how to treat a woman.”
“I read your previous posting about ‘bored’ women and I thought you got that exactly right as I saw myself in the hamster wheel you described: work, come home, eat, go to bed, repeat. UGH! It’s a good reminder to me to get out do some things I enjoy. With that said, I’m looking forward to meeting a real man with, what I think you call, the Big 4. Thanks and keep up the great work!”
I left their names off on purpose for anonymity reasons, but to be honest it doesn’t matter anyway. I have no idea who any of these women are or to what degree they’re “considered attractive by their friends”. Nonetheless, you can easily infer that all three of them have been disappointed by men who Failed To Deploy.
One guy wrote me claiming that it wasn’t up to us to deliver women from boredom. According to him, women should find something exciting to do on their own before they should even be considered “interesting”.
I get his point, but in the real world women still LOVE a man who leads. Meanwhile, life happens…and it tends to consume not only our long-term dreams but our short-term capacity to have fun. This problem is PANDEMIC…so much so that it even affects beautiful women.
The practical truth remains the same, and it is what it is: Women ARE bored, and if you represent a solution to that it starts looking VERY masculine–and therefore VERY attractive–VERY quickly.
Be Good,
Scot
P.S. A new episode of The X & Y On The Fly Dating Podcast is coming…along with some brand-new “album art”.
The Chick Whisperer #42 — How To Make Women Laugh, And What To Do When They Cry
Posted on February 26, 2011
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Man, if there’s anything that tends to completely vex guys all over the world, it’s got to be the whole concept of making women laugh.
Deep down, we know women find men with a sense of humor irresistible.
But wait a minute. Do we really have to actually make women bust their gut laughing all the time in order to come off as having a “sense of humor”?
That’s not only a really good question, it’s the question that my co-host Elaine Davis and I break down the answer to on this latest episode of The Chick Whisperer podcast.
If you don’t know Elaine, she happens to be the only dating coach I know of who’s also a professional stand-up comedian (as in, with paid gigs at places like The Laugh Factory in LA, and all that). Having heard so many stand up comics moan about their dating lives in their acts over the years–and suspecting it was all rooted in fact somewhere–I’ve been utterly fascinated by the apparent disconnect here.
I mean, which is it? Do funny guys attract women, or not?
As it turns out, you can’t be just “funny”. And that’s where you think it would get complicated. But no worries…after you dig in to this episode I think the true dynamic of what really turns a woman on relative to the whole “humor” thing will be crystal clear. And guess what? You’re probably already much, much farther along the road to getting this right than you think.
Plus, as a weird ironic twist to things, Elaine and I also handle a voice mail from a listener on what to do when women play the infamous “crying card” during disagreements. You just gotta love the fact that I reserved that one for when I had a lady co-host, huh?
As always, The Chick Whisperer podcast has “iPod friendly” titles and album art, so finding it amidst the thousands of other files on your 64GB MP3 player is just about as uncomplicated as listening to it.
The iTunes page for The Chick Whisperer podcast is linked to above and from the graphic at the top of the post. If you’d be so kind as to leave us a review, we’d be much obliged–and we’ll send you the 9 “retired” episodes, too. Your input really does influence iTunes rankings.
And if you’re the type of guy who just isn’t so into iTunes, then no worries. There’s always that old standby, the RSS feed. You can click on the link below to subscribe over there:
Be Good,
Scot
P.S. I already have the next episode in the works. Trying to cut the wait between episodes a bit for y’all.
X & Y On The Fly #45 — Open Relationships
Posted on February 16, 2011
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It’s true that I don’t blog much anymore at all, let alone every time a new podcast episode hits the street.
But this particular newly-released episode of X & Y On The Fly probably is going to raise some eyebrows, so I figured I’d give you a bit of an idea of what to expect.
You see, here’s the deal. Emily and I are–and always will be for the foreseeable future–completely monogamous. And we like it that way.
As such, it’s it might not surprise you that the whole idea of “open relationships” is one of the very few major headings in the world of dating and relationships that had been conspicuous by its absence from our discussions thus far.
But still, it’s sort of like an “elephant in the room”, isn’t it?
Well, rest assured that Emily and I have been kicking around the idea of doing an X & Y On The Fly show on the subject for quite sometime. And now, for your listening pleasure, we’ve actually gone and recorded one.
To subscribe and listen, you need look no further than iTunes:
Or if you prefer, you can go straight to the RSS feed:
I have to tell you, this may be the very first (and last) time you hear a monogamous couple broach this subject publicly, which is actually a shame. Sort of like how I believe one’s core world view shouldn’t be decided by “accident of birth” but rather by personal choice, how one structures one’s romantic relationships should be decided much in the same way.
Let’s face it. It’s a fear-based reaction to try to prohibit someone who you’d like to believe the way you do from reading literature that conflicts with it, yet that’s what parents and shortsighted faith-based institutions do all the time.
Bummer. Because if you want to be a stronger follower of [insert world view of choice here] instead of a “yes man”, then you should know why you don’t believe in something else.
Here in the US, at least, the core concept of getting married to one other person has pretty much been the de facto standard for, well, ever. We get that this “cultural meme” is pretty much forced on us.
So rest assured you can bet that Emily and I also completely get it if you’re not so interested in “your father’s Oldsmobile”. We understand if you think socialized monogamy is only for the faint of heart and is probably largely responsible for all the cheating and divorce that goes on in these parts.
But here’s the thing. We’ve indeed read and heard all about open relationships…including The Lifestyle, “circles”, even the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy of the rich and famous.
And we’ve still made the choice to be a couple, as in two people together. It’s an informed choice. We’re neither “trapped” nor in “possession” of one another, it’s just that we love each other wildly and wholeheartedly believe in the “one man/one woman” arrangement.
So YES…as you listen to this podcast, you can plan on hearing some very honest musings with regard to all kinds of open relationships. We’ll talk about the pros and cons, and we’ll do so without judgment.
But we’re not pretending to be “experts” on the subject, nor do we have time to cover every single nuance of every single angle. So be sure to cut us a break here. Perhaps more than any other show we’ve ever done, this one is more of a pure social discussion than a “teaching tool”.
In other words, that’s all long for “sit back, relax and enjoy.”
Be Good,
Scot
P.S. By the way, if you get the show on iTunes and you really like it, please be sure to leave us a review. And tell a friend or three. Much obliged.
The Man’s Approach Is Now Available
Posted on September 11, 2010
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Ask any guy what his #1 challenge is when it comes to women and he’ll tell you: It’s gathering up the courage to actually approach them and start conversations with them.
Indeed, the issue is nothing short of pandemic worldwide, attested to by the ever-increasing number of “pickup artist” training courses available out there.
But wait a minute. What if a particular guy isn’t exactly so interested in becoming a “pickup artist”? What if he’s a pretty “normal” guy who’d simply like to have a great girlfriend, and perhaps even a terrific wife someday?
The truth is if you’re that guy, you’re still going to have to actually meet the woman of your dreams before you can build a relationship with her, right?
Given the obvious truth of that statement, it’s altogether remarkable that there has never been a comprehensive plan on how to meet high quality women in particular, start conversations with them and make plans to see them again.
Until now, that is…
When She Says, “I Have A Boyfriend” + Special Teleseminar Event
Posted on September 8, 2010
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With The Man’s Approach ready to drop this Friday September 10th at 11 am EDT, I wanted to be sure to get you up to speed with the goodies I’ve been handing out…just in case you’re not on the info list.
So far there have been two reports, and you can grab both of them once you get on the info list I just mentioned:
Special Report: 5 Things Women Want You To Know When Approaching Them
Response to those two reports has been nothing short of overwhelming. Even more amazing has been the number of responses we’ve gotten to the quick survey we have at the website. There have been 2090 in just about a week to the main question: “What are your biggest challenges when it comes to meeting women, starting conversations with them and/or making plans to see them again?”
We really didn’t dream we’d get as much input from guys all over the world as we have. While our first thought was to take all the answers and use them to make The Man’s Approach even better, we’ve decided to go ahead and hold a webinar/teleseminar TOMORROW NIGHT, September 9th @ 9 pm EDT.
On that call I’m going to be joined by a few other world-class experts at meeting women and we’re going to cover the solutions to as many of the sticking points guys have submitted as we can in 90 minutes.
Here are the coordinates for the call:
DATE: Thursday September 9th (That’s Tomorrow)
TIME: 9pm Eastern Daylight Time (GMT -4)
ACCESS: Via US Call-In Number OR Worldwide Via The Web
DETAILS: http://bit.ly/TheMansApproachWebinar
That’s all for now. Be sure to get in on the pre-launch info list because I have yet another special report coming tomorrow…just before The Man’s Approach itself launches on Friday.
Be Good,
Scot
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