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A Surefire Secret To Effective Online Dating Profile Pictures

Okay, hopefully all the guys know by now to keep their shirts on for their online dating pics. And to not post pictures that look like they’re about to kill someone. And to avoid pics taken at strip clubs.

And in the interest of equal time, I’m sure women know by now not to go with the “Glamour Shot”, more pictures of the cat than of themselves, close-cropped face shots and/or anything blurry.

But what can we use as a yardstick for measuring good pictures? We’re usually left to the process of elimination here, aren’t we?

In coaching calls lately I’ve been describing the quintessentially perfect online dating profile pic as “warm, yet confident”. One woman–at a loss for what that actually looks like–asked for examples. Going through my “archives” for suitable examples was a very real “proof-of-concept” moment, as I realized that nearly all of the women who had caught my attention online–including Emily–had primary photos that captured exactly what I was talking about. So, I sent her some.

From there, realizing that this “warm yet confident” concept was truly on-point, my imagination was thereby tuned in to the concept. But the question remained as to what exactly to tell someone to get him or her into the proper mindset to produce some winning photos.

Shortly thereafter, while evaluating some software online, I got the proverbial 2×4 upside the head.

It happened when I saw a graphic advertising “live customer assistance”. Ironically, I even have very similar graphics here in the X & Y Communications web universe, but had still managed to overlook the obvious. Yet, the truth is crystal clear once one’s eyes are opened to it: Virtually every picture on the web of a headphone-wearing customer service agent–guy or girl–would make an outstanding online profile pic. Just rip the blasted headphones off and they would be all set.

Customer Service Chickie, Lookin' All Warm And Confident

Why is this the case? Well, any such pic almost always shows a warm, confident individual. Sure, the people in such photos are often good-looking, but not always “off the charts” hott by any stretch. Nevertheless, they typically come off as very attractive–in the literal sense. We are drawn in.

This is all by design.

After all, what’s the purpose of one of those “headphone pictures”? You got it…the idea is to get you to jump the fence, click the graphic, and start a conversation. If the person seems friendly, easy to talk to and as if they wouldn’t laugh at us for having dumb questions…we’re more likely to take the plunge and talk.

Here's Another Warm And Confident One

Moreover, if that same person appears to look as if he or she is likely to have the answer we’re looking for, so much the better. And nothing demonstrates the clear possibility of competence than an aura of confidence.

So let’s bring the concept full-circle. Just what is the point of your online dating profile pictures? Exactly–the point is to encourage people to contact you. In many ways, therefore, the goal is ultmately the same as that of online sites with customer service agents.

Can She Help You? Probably So.

So why not take a lesson from their collective marketing savvy and put it to work for you: When you take some shots for your online dating profile, ask your self “WWCSD?” (“What Would Customer Service Do?”)

My guess is that such a mindset–as “unorthodox” as it may sound–will bring you ridiculously positive results. It certainly can’t hurt.

Operators Are Standing By...And Just How Long Will You Wait By The Phone For It To Ring?

Strangely enough, if you look at the X & Y Communcations “Team Page” you could probably slap headphones on both Emily and I and we’d pretty much be instantly transformed into credible customer service agents. As fortune would have it, both her pic and mine on that page began life as–yes–our respective primary pics on Match.com. Go figure.

For more revolutionary and proven ways to take your online dating success to the ultimate level, be sure to take a close look at Online Dating Domination. Guys, that’s the plan for becoming the most successful guy in your entire metro area on any dating site of your choice. And ladies, Emily’s got a similar plan for you coming very, very soon. Stay tuned.

Be Good,

Scot

The Best Wintertime First Date Idea Ever

Here is some Q & A that went on recently between a reader and I. While there are some key general principles in there about setting up oneself for success on first dates, the greatest takeaway is the reader’s date idea itself. Read on.

Hi Scot:

I just thought i would email you to see if you have an answer that you could give to me advising me about going on a date with this beautiful girl.
I have had the date set up for a couple of weeks and explained to her that because of Christmas I had no money, setting a date in January (well next Friday).

I’m planning on taking her ice skating and then for a nice meal. But I found out that she has another date tomorrow night (Sunday) and I was just wondering what your advice would be about this–whether to keep the date as I do really want to take her out, but I just don’t know as of [learning about her going] on this other date.

Also any tips you could give me that would really give me a good chance to get a second date and take her out even more.
I have my hopes up about this date as I don’t have much luck with the ladies but I am hopefully changing this over the next year.

Many thanks,

Colin (United Kingdom)

Hello Colin:

Well, first of all I wouldn’t have told her that I needed two weeks to plan the date because I had no money.

Second of all…I wouldn’t have needed to have any money anyway.

Third…I would have recognized that a truly sharp, worthwhile woman cares more about my interest in spending time with her than how much money I’m spending. And I would have made plans for a LOT sooner…if just to go Christmas shopping together or to see the Christmas lights downtown. Whatever.

That she has a date with another guy tomorrow is in and of itself immaterial. That’s the bed you’ve made by empowering her to explore other options during the interim between when you asked and when your date actually happens. If after that date she likes him more than you, that’s the way it goes. On the other hand, if he blows it for himself as many guys do (either by being too sexually pushy and or…wait for it…by trying to impress her with how much money he spends on her) then you may actually be handed an opportunity on your evening with her to show her how a real man operates.

As an aside, the fact that she TOLD you about the other date is likely a sign of interest in YOU rather than him. Think about it. Yet you are asking me questions as if you feel you’ve already “lost” before you’ve even gone out with her. Success with her and with women in general has to start with the confident mindset of a man who is a winner and assumes rich options with women.

If you haven’t told her about the “nice dinner” after the ice skating plans, I wouldn’t. I am also assuming you know how to ice skate decently (not necessarily like Sidney Crosby or anything, but at least as well as she’ll be able to) and therefore can demonstrate confidence and leadership.

That said, ice skating sounds like an exceptional first date idea. There are built-in ways to be “physical” together that are quintessentially perfect for sending the right messages. You can hold her hand, skate arm-in-arm if she’s a beginner, and physically help her up after a fall (not by the arm like an NBA player, please).

You can even perform the all-powerful “out of context dance twirl” a time or two when you’ve stopped skating and are ready to step off the ice (or already have). All of these examples allow you to show that you can lead physically WITHOUT coming off as a horn dog. Note the distinct difference between what I’m talking about here and “escalating kino”, which is how sex-focused men try to manipulate women whom they assume–and typically mistakenly so–aren’t wise to what’s going on.

Ice skating. Good call. Most Definitely.

Pick her up for the evening and take her skating. Don’t plan on this lasting for any longer than an hour and a half or so because it gets old (and cold) faster than you think–especially if there’s a lot of falling going on. Believe me when I tell you a nice restaurant is not going to fit the texture of the evening after that anyway.

Assuming you two are having fun, then you announce that it’s time to go grab a bite afterward. Choose somewhere that’s inexpensive and with a lightweight atmosphere. It is imperative that this be about continuing to spend time together now that you’re hungry having ice skated for a while. You are not attempting to impress her with dinner here. Then, continue the fun conversation making best use of the doubtlessly humorous or otherwise talkworthy stuff that happened while you were ice skating.

Getting this right isn’t difficult, my good friend. I can guarantee it’s at least easier than learning to ice skate was.

Oh…and lest I forget. Watch for the perfect first-kiss moment, which could come at any time. If you help her up after another slip up on the ice and she stays close to you and looks you in the eye rather than skating off right away, PLEASE kiss her…briefly but effectively. If you don’t, every woman reading this will come to your door and go “Ruth Buzzi” on your happy beating you over the head with their purses.

Assuming the best in the above scenario, when you take her home after dinner, walk her to her door, tell her you had fun and that you’ll call her. Then LEAVE. No more kisses. Get this last step right and the guy from the date before yours is in BIG trouble. She won’t be able to stop thinking about you. And please don’t wait “three to five days” to call the poor chick, will you?

Enjoy.

Be Good,

Scot

Women Want A Man Who Will Lead…Here’s Proof

In the latest edition of the X & Y Communications weekly newsletter, I shared with you an e-mail from a man who had been dating a particularly sharp woman. She had been showing some clear signs of interest, including staying out with him way later than she planned on date #2.

Yet, our hero (in this case Russell from Michigan) was used to distinct “chasing behavior” from other women he had been dating recently. So when that latest woman didn’t exactly follow suit in the form of calling first, suggesting where to go on dates, making overt statements of interest, etc. he took it as either a minimal interest level or (gasp) manipulative behavior. After all, why should a guy have to do all the “heavy lifting” here?

In my answer to his e-mail, I reassured him that the woman was likely very interested in him. Importantly, she was equally likely not a manipulator who wanted him to “chase” her.

My take on the situation was in fact that she was simply one of those rare, amazing women who demonstrates a sense of dignity that rare, amazing men ALSO tend to possess. That is to say, she understands the attraction-killing danger of giving away one’s power in the form of neediness and/or insecurity.

She wasn’t about “chasing” anyone…or about “chasing” at all, really. High-quality men and women are past that much in the same way that Mark Cuban is past checking out his personal credit report.

But most importantly, like virtually all other particularly sharp women, she was looking for benevolent leadership from our main man Russell. She requires a man who can make decisions, have situations handled, and set plans based on genuine recognition of her reasonable preferences and desires as a woman.

Since releasing that newsletter, the responses I’ve received have been fascinating. Typically, some of you guys have been sending me examples similar to Russell’s from your own life asking me to unravel what occurred. Apparently, what we’re discussing here is so foreign to standard “Seduction Community” teaching that it’s frying our collective circuits as guys.

But wait…I also heard from numerous women. That’s right, gentlemen…the ladies are reading the newsletter. And here’s a random sampling from an almost uniform chorus of female voices:

“Hey Scot…..loved your email today (female here) You are so on the mark with your thought process and advice. Where have all the men gone that can ‘lead’? Appreciate your candid info….you really know ‘what a girl wants’. HAPPY NEW YEAR” –Diane in Canada

“I’ve been reading your articles for a few weeks now and I just had to respond to your latest article – YOU ARE SO RIGHT ON!! I am so perplexed/frustrated with meeting men who have absolutely no leadership skills like this guy. We have a great time but then do… ????
Anyway, I wish all men would be reading your newsletters. I mostly just think they are clueless with no malice intended but I do NOT want to be a teacher. Keep up the good work. I really appreciate it and hope to meet a wonderful one of these days!” –Ginger from Parts Unknown

“I love your response to Russel, and you have my sincere congratulations for recognizing and pointing out the quality women truly do want men who lead. I understand Russell’s confusion over the situation with the woman he tried to date. It seems that men particularly have a stereotype of women – that we are bossy and always “want to call the shots.” In reality, we call the shots because the men often do not. But, deep down, we really want a man to lead. We adore men who will stand up for his convictions and give us something to respect and follow. Trust me, I am a woman who have been married to the same man for over 12 years. So, keep up the great work!! All the best.” –Kirsten from Who Knows Where

…and this gem:

“I don’t usually respond to any dating emails but this one was compelling and
I couldn’t resist. You summed it all up by telling him that we women crave masculinity. It’s a NON-NEGOTIABLE! Women can’t resist a charming, smart, socially savvy man who leads. That is
sexy to us. A man who can lead in turn makes us want to explode with our femininity, which is what you men want, right!?

So, guess what boys…we won’t even keep your number on our cell phones if you don’t show us we are worth the effort! Any indication of weakness on your part automatically eliminates you from the running!

By expecting the woman to call (at least in the initial stages of dating) you are sending this woman a message that you Do Not Value HER (which is also an indication of arrogance on your part..way up there on that list of turn-offs). How can you possibly expect to win-over that “High-Quality” woman if you don’t let her know that she’s worth your time and effort?! If you don’t do your part to inspire us to shower you with our femininity, then you can’t have it. Period. End of story. It’s simple guys…pick up the phone…D-I-A-L! Show us your manliness–and your reward will be great.” –Abby from Seattle

So, Abby. Tell us how you really feel, huh?

All of this reminds me to remind you that what we are up to around here is not “underground”. I couldn’t really give a rat’s hindquarters if women “find out” what we’re talking about. In fact, see for yourself…they not only know about it, they’re cheering me on.

I hear one of you guys out there saying, “Yeah Scot, but women will say they want something from a guy and their actions will demonstrate the exact opposite.”

Really? Are you sure about that, or is that just something you learned from somewhere “underground”?

Yeah well, I like it right here above ground, where the sun shines. Real women have spoken, and you can choose to believe that they know what they’re talking about…or not.

As for me, I’ve always preferred women who knew what they were talking about. Women who say one thing and do something else kind of bore me. Then again, men who are like that are sort of a drag also, as anyone who has ever been in the business world (or bought a used car) can attest.

So here’s my challenge to you for 2008, guys: Are you going to keep doing what you’ve always done when it comes to attracting women?

If you’ve decided that enough is enough and that it’s time to trade in mediocrity for a wildly successful dating life, then you know what to do. Here’s the link I mentioned in the newsletter…and those of you who are on the guest list for it have the secret code I gave.

I’ve got your back and am at your side as you attain a level of success with great women that very, very few men will ever even realize exists.

And ladies, what about you? Do you refuse to settle for anyone less than a man of masculine leadership and character? If you think all men are lacking in that department, it’s time to cut loose old ways of thinking and begin to recognize the simple truth that there are a multitude of men out there who deserve great women. The question is, are you ready to meet one? If you don’t have a clear answer, here’s a great place to start.

Take care, and thanks again to everyone who writes and/or leaves comments. I’ll be back again in a day or two with what could be the ultimate wintertime first date idea.

Be Good,

Scot

So, You Want To Eliminate The Competition? (Part Two) [Video]

Last time we talked about having to “compete” for people you’d like to date. But what happens once you’ve actually “won”? Let’s face it, at that point it’s time to re-evaluate, lest you face the type of danger I talk about in today’s video:

Be Good,

Scot

Can Your Google Toolbar Do THIS?

OK, check it out. I was casually leafing through the last issue of Cliff’s List, which in and of itself is nothing unusual, when I found something that stopped me dead in my tracks. These days, it takes something altogether original to get that kind of reaction from me.

What I found was something called Diabolik’s Seduction Community Toolbar. Basically, somebody (namely “Diabolik”) who is apparently as gifted technologically as he is interested in improving his skills with women came up with the concept–and it’s completely cool.

Screenshot Of The Diabolik Seduction Community Toolbar

Basically, you download the lightweight application as you would Google’s Toolbar or anything similar. Installation is fast, intuitive and apparently bug-free. Then, the next time you open Internet Explore you have all the blogs, forums and associated other “goodies” from most of the big names in dating and seduction training for men at your fingertips. It’s like a “dating dashboard”. This is about as cool as it gets.

So definitely grab a heaping helping for yourself from the main download site. When you do, why not make your first official use of it to check out the Deserve What You Want forum? If you do, jump right in. These days we have FAR too many “lurkers” in relation to “posters”.

Be Good,

Scot

So, You Want To Eliminate The Competition? (Part One) [Video]

A lot of times Emily and I get e-mails from men and women (especially) who claim that they can’t stand competing for the affections of MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex). Typically, they want to know how to eliminate such competition and/or how to “just say know”, as it were, thereby refusing to compete altogether.

Well, have I got a take on that concept for you. Watch below…

As noted, that’s Part One. Next time we’ll talk about the opposite side of the coin: What happens if you actually succeed at “eliminating the competition”? Prepare for a somewhat shocking answer…

Be Good,

Scot

I Wasn’t Kidding. High Quality Women Exist, For High Quality Men

Ali From Miami If you read my newsletter this week you heard me talk about how a shocking number of guys think “all women” (especially American ones) are deceitful, manipulative golddiggers who’ll cheat on you, leave you and take all your money.

Yeah, well. You also heard me talk about how most guys who throw that level of blame over all women like a blanket should take a look in the mirror. After all, it’s easier to blame others than to deserve what you want (a concept one reader termed “profound”…go figure).

But don’t get me wrong, guys. I ain’t mad atcha. My #1 goal–as always–is simply to empower you to get GREAT WOMEN into your life. But you know how it is. It’s hard to transfer into reality a concept that you don’t even BELIEVE IN.

And rest assured, truly high-quality women aren’t like Santa Claus. They’re 100% real, whether you like it or not. They’re usually not overweight, old or bearded either. Nor do they get stuck in your chimney. Come to think of it, though, they do sometimes bring nice gifts.

I digress.

See that picture up there? That’s Ali from Miami. Here’s the e-mail I got from her after she read that last newsletter:

“AMEN!!! I am going to mass print this newsletter and give it to EVERY man I meet that complains that there aren’t any GOOD women out here. And I meet A LOT of them. I am amazed at how many men are disillusioned by MOTOS. Real or perceived, I don’t know. But it seems to be an epidemic. Just take a look at the Headlines/Opening lines on many male online profiles. Probably the most popular opener is….”Are there any good women out there”? I read this and scream…YES, YES there is! Me, Me.

I am a woman of the highest echelon and I am holding out for a man who deserves me! We will deserve each other.

Thank you Scot for the best newsletter yet!”

Yeah, well. I’m not surprised. I’m not surprised by Ali’s message OR her existence. Just in case any of you are attempting to believe that my relationship with Karaoke-girl (two posts below this one) is all “staged” or something, there’s more evidence for you that I’m not blowing smoke about all this “high quality women” stuff.

By the way, did you happen to catch the fact that Ali’s ONLINE? So tell me, what is it going to take for some of you guys out there to finally get your hands on this and start participating in life as we know it around here? Go back and dust off yesterday’s newsletter and getchasum using the killer coupon I sent you. It’s time for a whole new attitude…and some serious success with great women that is beyond your dreams.

What? You aren’t getting the X & Y Communications Weekly Newsletter yet? That means you aren’t getting my frequent cool surprises reserved for newsletter subscribers. It’s all FREE, of course, and you can start getting it (and STOP missing out) simply by using the form at the upper right corner of this blog.

Be Good,

Scot

Massive Success With Women This Holiday Season, Or Burger King? You Decide

Find out how to get a great woman to hang out with for the holidays, and what to do once you’ve found her. Everything from how to handle Christmas parties, gift advice, fashion, social dynamics and–of course–secrets to making New Year’s Eve a blast.

If you weren’t able to make the original call, we’ve got cleanly edited copies of that latest tele-seminar we threw on the subject last week available for you to download for a paltry “love offering” of seven bucks (Yes, that’s even in US dollars).

Basically, this means you can rake in all of this outrageous wisdom and thereby separate yourself from the “herd” for about the cost of a super-sized #5 with cheese (for example).

Then again, I’m kind of hungry right now, so maybe that’s not as compelling as analogy as it could be.

What the heck…get your lunch AND your success with MOTOS “super-sized” for a grand total of what, $14? If only you could point and click yourself a Whopper this easily.

The important part here is that Carlos Xuma, Dean Cortez, and I gave up tips on holiday dating and how to maximize your opportunities to meet women this season, and how to kick off 2008 with the best bang of all. Most of this stuff was 100% original. Here’s what I mean:

–Have you ever wondered what kind of opportunities there are to meet women this holiday season? We’ll give you ideas on how, when, and where to meet them (and this involves ACTUALLY meeting them, not just talking about it).

–How to focus on the ridiculously ingenious ways to get the right women interested that are practically BUILT IN to the holiday season

–Fashion styles and statements you can make to stand out from the rest of the guys

–Giving a gift to your woman? Potential girlfriend? We’ll talk about what gifts are good to get for a woman – and which gifts you must avoid at all costs! (This alone is worth the $7…no doubt)

–How to handle your holiday parties, and especially making the biggest impact on New Years Eve (Warning: You might be a little shocked by my “crown jewel” New Year’s strategy)

You can get your copy of the Holiday Hookup tele-seminar HERE. But hurry…by this time next week the program is going to be back to its “street price” of $14. So getting in on it now is like…well…buying yourself a free lunch. So who says “there ain’t no free lunch”…sort of?

Be Good,

Scot

Recent Interview With Rion Williams

Not too long ago I had the chance to sit down with the “thinking man’s” dating and seduction coach, and fellow Texan, Rion Williams. I’m pleased to have been his guest.

In this interview for his Lifestyle Dating Radio podcast, Rion and I generate some completely original material as we discuss exactly what it is that makes women feminine and how we as men should respond to that. It’s all about LEADERSHIP, my brethren.

Be sure to subscribe using the link below and GETCHASUM….

Rion Williams’ Lifestyle Dating Radio

You probably already know who Rion is, but just in case here’s the link:

All Things Rion Williams

Rion is also featured in VIRTUOSITY, discussing with me how to ignite femininity. It was an epic session.

I’ll be back atcha again real soon with another video blog.

Be Good,

Scot

FREE Teleseminar On Holiday Season Success With Women: TONIGHT (12/6)

QUICK REMINDER:

I wanted to remind you guys out there about our next FREE Teleseminar happening on 12/6
– THAT’S TONIGHT.

Remember that this is a TELE-seminar – meaning that you dial in on
your phone to listen in. No travel necessary!

Carlos Xuma and I (and maybe a special guest…) will be giving up tips on holiday dating and how to maximize your opportunities with women this season, and how to kick off 2008 with the best bang of all…

– Have you ever wondered what kind of opportunities there are to meet women this holiday season? We’ll give you ideas on how, when, and where to meet women…

– How do you handle New Years parties?

– Hidden strategies that help you meet more women

– Killer secrets to maximizing special–but usually overlooked–advantages the Holidays bring

– Giving a gift to your woman? Potential girlfriend? We’ll talk about what to give for gifts and why…

…plus a whole bunch more. Here’s the link to get the call information:

http://www.instantteleseminar.com/?eventid=1272945

We also need your questions, so be sure to submit them in the form
on the page…

We suggest you dial-in early to get this presentation in its
entirety.

Remember, it’s a conference call where you dial in and listen in…

TIME: 6:00 PM PACIFIC / 9:00PM EASTERN (GMT -5)
DATE: Thursday, December 6th.
PHONE NUMBER TO DIAL: 218-486-3695
CONFERENCE ID (Enter When Prompted): 167688#

That’s TONIGHT! Mark it on your list, check it twice, and we’ll talk to you
later (literally).

Be Good,

Scot

Quality Begets Options [Video]

Want to know how to get ALL the women? Here’s the secret. Fair warning: This is not what your friendly neighborhood PUA wants you to know…

Be Good,

Scot

X & Y On The Fly #34 — How To Understand The Opposite Sex

X & Y On The Fly Podcast No, we haven’t lost our minds. Yes, we think the subject matter of this podcast is within your reach (and everyone else’s, for that matter). For the details, you are just going to have to listen in.

The XYotF shows tend to be full-length deals, so I’d recommend subscribing and slapping these puppies on your iPod.

While this show is a bonanza unto itself, we fully realize we haven’t been producing nearly enough episodes. So here’s a surprise. Go to www.x-net-media.com and sign up for our newsletter. When you do, you’ll get a shiny new copy of a special BONUS EPISODE we call “The JuniorCast”. If you are already a newsletter subscriber, simply log in using the e-mail address you are already subscribed with and you can download the BONUS EPISODE also.

So see? We’ve got your back.

Be Good,

Scot

Online Dating Profile Rating #20

Online Dating Profile Rating Podcast Now brought to you by Match.com. It’s about time, huh?

Anyway, we are back to overhauling profiles after a brief hiatus while we upgraded our affiliation. In this episode we take a look at a woman’s profile that has gone to the dogs…literally. No worries, though. A little “tweakage” will go a LONG way.

Grab a listen now. And if you want to submit your Match.com username for possible consideration on the show, e-mail it to scot@datetoorder.com.

Subscribe here.

Be Good,

Scot

Would 007 Ever Land In the “JBF” Zone?

Living Proof My Mind Is Always Engaged...My Neighbor's License Tag Will you look at this? Some guys get all the luck. This is my next-door neighbor’s actual license tag.

By way of simple housekeeping, before you get your boxers (or panties) in a wad about me posting people’s plates on the ‘net, get a load of this (for example) and consider cutting me a break, will you?

So let’s get to the point. Noticing this license plate, I couldn’t help but realize that James Bond (aka “007”) is never in the “Just Be Friends Zone”, now is he? It’s terra incognito for him.

Why is this?

Well, simply put, my man JB isn’t going around chasing each woman as if she’s the last mirror-fogging example of a female homo sapien walking the planet. Moreover, James has options. He’s in demand by women, which means he can be a real, legitimate chooser rather than chaser. No spasmatic reactions or indecisive waffling there–007 has everything handled.

He’s got an interesting and adventurous life, has the concept of cool down cold (if you know what I mean) and women all over the place are buying into whatever the man is selling.

Maybe the British accent has something to do with it, but I doubt it. Even the British women are all over him.

So if you are finding yourself being “JBFed” by women more often than not, start paying attention to your demeanor, attitude and how you carry yourself. Ask, “WWJBD?”

If you do that, my guess is that your success with MOTOS will be a lot less humble, Tex.

Be Good,

Scot

P.S. Speaking of license plates, take a look at this. If you are a leadfoot like me, your ship has come in…

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Thou Shalt Not “Hold Her Purse For Her”

Has this ever happened to you?

You, as a man, image of masculinity such that you are, are in the company of a woman (as is often the case, we hope). Maybe you are at the mall (as is not often the case, we hope), or some social event, or God forbid a sporting event. Out of nowhere, she turns to you and requests, “Here, hold my purse. I’ll be right back.”

Blindly obliging this request, gentlemen, is The Thing That Must Never Be.

It’s a test. It’s a test not only of your manhood, but of your ability to be manhandled. It could be an unconscious one on her part, but then again it could be a calculated assessment to how well you’ll eventually accept being cuckolded in the not-too-distant future.

Someone said, “Dude, what does ‘cuckolded’ mean?”

Exactly.

To many of you out there, this may seem like a minor issue…or even a hang-up. But I’m telling you, I’ve never seen a man who exhibits the “Big Four” holding some chick’s purse for her. Especially if she’s trying on a few things at The Limited.

I’ve also never seen a woman gaze lovingly and with glowing admiration upon a man who is clutching her purse patiently pending her return.

So don’t feel “obligated” guys. Just say “no”. If she isn’t up to schlepping her purse around, she should have left it home. And if she isn’t understanding of your point of view and/or uses your “lack of cooperation” as a weapon later then consider that a warning message about what a long-term relationship with her looks like.

Ultimately, this is all rolled into “The Reverse Golden Rule” as outlined in last week’s newsletter. You know, “Would I ever do unto someone else what is being done unto me here?”

Let me spell this out. I’m not going to expect Emily to sit with me on a Sunday afternoon and endure a full four quarters. That said, considering I can’t even endure a full four quarters of my Ravens this season maybe that’s a poor example. How about, “Hey, why don’t you and your fresh manicure go out and check the oil in my F-150 real quick?” “What do you mean, ‘I don’t think so’, you mean you can’t figure out something that easy?”

Yeah well, she can figure it out alright. That doesn’t change the fact that it’s a completely unreasonable request.

Were I her, I’d purrrr some offhand response to the effect of, “Why sure, baby. Here…hold my purse for me while I do that.”

Let’s all respect each other’s masculinity and femininity, ladies and gentlemen. Even when it’s at the brief and momentary cost to our own personal convenience.

Got any examples of your own? Let’s hear about them.

Be Good,

Scot

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Pickup And Seduction: Embedded Wingwomen

Everyone knows that bringing wingwomen along when you go out for a night on the town can have an amazing positive effect. Social proof. Female intuition. People buying on the approval of others. Outstanding stuff.

But wait a minute. All of this assumes you aren’t actually out on a real date yet. What if you could have the benefit of wingwomen even when you are out on a “solo flight” with a woman? Unthinkable?

Guess again.

The concept I want to introduce to you is one I call “Embedded Wingwomen”. Don’t get any preconceived notions–we’re not talking about “in-bedding” your “wingwoman” here. This is probably even better.

In fact, I’m indebted to one of my favorite business authors here. Harvey MacKay wrote nearly 20 years ago now (How To Swim With The Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive, p.66) on how you as a businessman can “Create Your Own Private Club” for the purpose of entertaining customers. And you can do so at just about any nice restaurant of your choosing.

How so? Simple. You pay the restaurant (or bar, or lounge, etc.) a visit during it’s lowest hour. Think three o’clock in the afternoon if you have a restaurant in mind. During this visit, you meet the manager and explain to him or her what you have in mind. Essentially, you offer your credit card number and a signed slip ahead of your actual planned visit with the customers in tow. You then ask to be welcomed by name, and that your guest be welcomed by name as “Mr./Ms. X”, and that you are assigned a particularly effective full-time member of the waitstaff who is perceived to carry job stability, and preferably a regular schedule. Then you pre-approve a 25% gratuity.

When you arrive, you entertain your guests with the “red carpet treatment” extended throughout the night. When finished, you get up and leave. No waiting around, no drama. And most importantly no check.

And since you are a man or woman of your word, the next time around goes even more smoothly. A relationship is established. And you have essentially accomplished what Harvey has taught you.

Masterful stuff.

But this isn’t a business blog. We’re talking attraction and seduction here. And granted, it’s slicker than snake snot to apply Harvey’s exact principle to the dating world. Most definitely…but not until you’re sure that one’s a keeper, please.

So here’s how I adapted the principle and gave it a new twist when I was going on a LOT of first dates.

I had several very key places I enjoyed taking women to. I made it a point to build relationships with management and with very key female employees. Again…full-timers with regular schedules (which I made note of). I served notice to all of the above that I was more than happy to take care of them if they took care of me. Having built the first-name relationship using, frankly, much of that same old common-sense rapport building stuff we’re taught to use with attractive MOTOS, the die is cast.

Returning later with a woman, my new friend is behind the bar as expected. She greets me by name. Later, after a few laughs, I send my date to the bar for another round…or whatever. It’s then that my “embedded wingwoman” tells my date how hot/great/generous/cool/etc. I am. The comments are unsolicited, of course. The best part of this is that she’s telling the truth. I have indeed been nothing less than hot/great/generous/cool/etc. towards her in setting up the whole thing.

So my date returns to me with an extra measure curiosity and perhaps attraction. I actually witnessnessed measurable demeanor changes directly correlated to this effect more times than I could keep count of.

But that’s not where it ends. The next trip to the bar I’d make myself. That’s when I’d get a second or two of oh-so valuable female feedback on my date. Was she cool to the bartender, who she wasn’t trying to impress? Priceless.

And again, with each subsequent visit after having lived up to your own end of the bargain, things get better and better…and more amazing for the women you are with.
This is the PDA bar of choice. The actual one. I had 'season tickets'.
In one particularly glorious situation, I made friends with a particularly outgoing bisexual bartender at what is perhaps the most romantic “PDA bar” in the city of San Antonio.

BTW, every man needs a “PDA bar” on his radar screen. If that concept isn’t self-explanatory, e-mail me for some coaching immediately.

Anyway, I got to the point where I’d sit at the bar with a woman and simply excuse myself to the restroom for a blessed few minutes. By the time I returned, I was set to soon receive a report on more “dimensions of compatibility” than eHarmony could shake a stick at.

As you can see, the principle is actually a fairly simple one.

Be Good,

Scot

Practice Your Game: Meet The Live Assistance Ladies

Or “LAdies” for short.

You know me. I always have a surprise in store for you all.

So when I found out that my e-commerce parter Plimus.com was fixin’ to roll out “Live Assistance” capabilities, my wheels began turning.

Sure, it’s really cool that you can now ask questions in real-time while placing an order. That’s great when you have a last minute product question and/or are wondering about a certain aspect of the order process that just crossed your mind. It just adds a certain savoire faire to the operation, doesn’t it?

But with the ability to pick and choose who my operators were going to be, I decided to put in a bit of extra effort. Considering what it is we do around here for a living, I sensed the opportunity for a “value added” experience.

I couldn’t believe my good fortune, but a disproportionate number of the Live Assistance chat operators are women. And they generally seemed like fun ones at that. So, knowing that providing “tier one customer support” all day long had to become a downer after a few hours in a row, I decided to tell them what X & Y Communications was all about. And then, the “money question”: Would they mind if some guys practiced their IM “game” on them a bit?

Well, you know…it’s kind of busy over there…and they have to stay on task and get work done. In other words, HECK YEAH…they’re IN!

Well, all but one of them. But still, who can complain?

So here it is, guys. Going forward, you are cordially invited to practice your skeelz with my Live Assistance hotties, or “LAdies” as I call them. All I ask is that you keep it real…this is meant to be a fun and educational dimension to the order process.

And this is IMPORTANT. You ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY have got to be respectful. If one or two of you squander this experience, it’s going away and NOT coming back. So, if you never otherwise live by my typical closing to my notes, now is the time: BE GOOD.

I must be crazy to think this isn’t going to get outta hand. But I’m a trusting man who believes in the inherent greatness of each and every one of you.

Now, I haven’t seen pics of The LAdies–nor did I feel it appropriate to ask. But based on the conversations I had with them, I can pretty much tell they aren’t exactly “dateless wonders”, if you know what I mean.

Actually, you guys are in for it…the five I selected are QUICK. Look alive.

If you’ve been meaning to pick up a copy of Deserve What You Want, I’ve just given you a great excuse.

Be Good,

Scot

The Chick Whisperer #15 Featuring Joseph “Thundercat” Matthews

OK, I unleashed the latest episode last night.

My co-host for this one is Joseph “Thundercat” Matthews. Although this guy has been talking a lot about rapport lately, we went in a completely different direction on this show.

The title is “Having Sex With Her As Soon As Possible”. Before you cough up a lung, I assure you both he and I are true-blue to the core on this one…yet we agree on a lot. If that has your wheels turning already, I can only shake my head, laugh, raise my hand and offer you my 100% agreement with what you must be thinking.

Nice, huh? I’ve always promised to face the issues head-on around here, and as always…I’ve got your back and aim to please.

Grab a listen. In fact, if you hit the graphic above and “subscribe” on iTunes I’d be much obliged. Let’s get the show back on the front page of the “featured” section. It slipped a notch somehow, even though more guys are listening. iTunes…go figure.

Be Good,

Scot