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The Chick Whisperer #22 — Shyness And Introversion

From the very beginning when we launched The Chick Whisperer show, we decided that there were several ways the show had to be unique, and therefore separate itself from the herd.

First, we were going to focus on being a man of character who therefore attracts only the HIGHEST ECHELON of women

Second, we were going to go out of our way to honor the often extreme intelligence of our listenership–most of whom are pretty successful guys. We hope we’ve been faithful to that thus far.

Third, even though we–and our co-hosts–tend to have some completely killer premium programs out there, we pledged that we would NEVER slack off from providing practical, real-world content worthy of high-dollar products…but all for F-R-E-E.

I can say with a straight face that this episode–number twenty-two–holds the “fundamentals” to a particularly high standard.

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Why Monogamy Isn’t An Option To Most Of The Seduction Community

Here’s a question I received via Facebook that really caught my attention. So much so that I’m sharing the Q&A with you here. By the way, if you’d like to “friend” me on facebook, my profile is here.

While we’re at it, if you’re on Twitter my username is “scotmckay“.

Here we go:

Hey Scot:

I have an honest question for you. Though I’ve ribbed you on forums before about how you always talk about your wife, I think I am very similar to you in that respect. I have a very serious gf who I will soon get engaged to. She is a sweetheart. The PUA sites really push the concept of being poly-amorous. I guess if you’re a 20 year old kid you want to have fun, and we all have our heidonistic fantasies even when in a great relationship. But my question to you is: Do you think it’s wrong for these sites to push this poly-amorous concept?

Let’s be honest here- 99% of the women I have met want a monogamous boyfriend. Sure there are younger women in sororities or other between relationships that want to date around, but overall our society tells women that they want 1 boyfriend /mate. To spread this notion to be polyamorous and that women will respect it- I find it to be stupid and not realistic.

There’s nothing better than a great monogamous relationship. Forgetting even the physical aspect, the emotional connection cannot be matched. And even if my gf isn’t “a 10” in the looks department compared to some supermodel types I see on the street, my gf is a 10 with her devotion, love, and caring and connection we have. Should the community be spreading this type of relationship rather than being playboy PUAs?

I’m a big fan of the Seduction Community and have learned lots from them, but I think this aspect of their philosophy is totally off base. Curious as to your thoughts.

Cheers,

Bradley

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Do Women Really Bail Out Of Relationships With Guys They Like?

Those of you who receive the X & Y Communications Newsletter read earlier today about how it’s possible that a woman will bail out of a relationship with a guy even if he hasn’t done anything particularly wrong.

Basically, the premise is that if a woman is afraid of being hurt, or in someway feels she isn’t deserving of a relationship with a great man, she may pull the proverbial plug on things.

In other words…a man can theoretically drive a woman away simply because he’s got his act together as far as the “Big Four” are concerned.

At least one reader has already e-mailed me, claiming what I’m talking about must only happen to “rock stars and movie actors”.

So how about it? Do women really ever say they “need their space” or “just want to be friends” because of their own insecurities?

In case there are any other doubters out there, read this message I just got via MySpace from a guy who wishes to remain anonymous. Here’s the truth…complete with empirical evidence.

While there are some added plot complications (e.g. first sex recently, jealous friends), I think the message is loud and clear: Sometimes women do “run away” precisely because a guy is doing everything right.

Note the most poignant parts are in bold type.

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A Woman’s Point Of View On Flirting [Guest Blog]

Meet Terry MacDonald.

She’s a new friend of ours and like most “lady gurus” whom we consider to be our favorites, she is all about the dating success of both women AND men. Our list is a short one, and we really have no idea why that is.

But nonetheless, we think you’ll like what Terry has to say as much as we do. I hand-selected this recent piece from her called “Flirting 101 (For Men And Women)” because I think it captures her matter-of-fact but very humorous style.

Enjoy!

Do you get tongue-tied when you meet a person of the opposite sex? Or when you’re meeting people for the first time?

I did. Being shy gave me a reputation for being a snob, being “hard to reach,” and worst of all, “having a superior attitude.” Whether you’re a man or a woman, it’s hardly the image you hope to project when you want to make a love match or even a new friend.

I met a woman who taught me a thing or two about looking approachable. One was to use my eyes when the right words locked up in my mouth. “It’s all in the eyes,” this master flirt said, and she’d never suffered a shortage of suitors, despite the fact that she was no Gisele Bundchen. Her boyish figure and the gap between her teeth discouraged nobody, though—people were drawn to her because of what she was saying with her eyes!

So I learned to convey interest in a guy with my eyes, even if I couldn’t think of a pertinent response. I also learned to smile with my eyes, instead of merely turning up the corners of my mouth (smiling is so important; why oh why do people neglect to do it?).

If shyness isn’t your problem, speaking with your eyes is also the antidote to speaking too much with your mouth. I’ve heard it said that God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason, and face it, good listeners often come off as brilliant conversationalists. Bonus: By listening carefully, you get to really know the person you’re interested in and figure out whether he or she’s worth your time.

The master flirt also taught me to lose the turtlenecks I liked to wear and replace them with V-neck blouses. Little did I know, turtlenecks can make the neck look short, and they give some wearers a double chin. So, if you’re a woman, wear a blouse in a flattering shade and keep the top two buttons open. If you’re a guy, go with a v-neck. The goal is to give that neck of yours a little exposure. It suggests vulnerability, which is attractive. It’s also sexy.

The tip to show neck may sound elementary if you’re a woman and already wearing down-to-there necklines, but displaying too much skin is even worse than showing too little: You’ll attract the very men you want to avoid. Oh, and if you’re a guy, remove the baseball cap, please! Who cares if you’re bald? Get rid of it. A bare head is so much more attractive than a baseball cap (or, worse, a cap with your mechanic’s logo on it!).

Now that you know how to make yourself approachable, it’s time for the next step: To get out and meet somebody.

Want more no-nonsense stuff from Terry? Terry MacDonald is the happily married author of How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams, which is right in line with Emily’s new Click With Him program for women.

You ladies out there can sign up for free dating tips from her right here, also.

And you have to check out her blog. Her recent post on Eliot Spitzer is nothing short of classic…she really hands it to him (deservedly). There’s also an excellent point about text messaging, which dovetails nicely with the telecom game we’ve been discussing lately.

Got some flirting strategies of your own to share? Give us your best.

Be Good,

Scot

Online Dating: The Case For Instant Messaging

Some guys believe that instant messaging is to be avoided at all costs when beginning to talk to women we meet online.

I understand that sentiment to some degree, based on the logic that it’s always a good idea to get women from e-mail to phone–and then to first meeting–as soon as possible.

Apart from that, a lot of water starts rushing under the proverbial bridge and we may find ourselves having wasted a lot of time when and if we end up disappointed upon meeting. And no doubt, IM can be a major aggravating factor when it comes to prolonging the pre-meeting phase.

Likewise, the more we talk and talk to women before actually meeting them the greater the probability of slipping into the Dreamscape Effect, which is when we literally invent an image of the “real” woman we’re dealing with without actually having the benefit of knowing yet what reality holds. The longer this goes on, the more damaging the disappointment can be when it happens. We’ll discuss the Dreamscape Effect in greater detail in a future post.

So then, yes…if a woman is using IM simply as a means of protracting the process of getting to the first meeting, then such scenarios are to be avoided. If she repeatedly refuses to escalate to the next level of communication (e.g. e-mail to IM, IM to phone, phone to meeting) but continues to appear interested, then that’s likely what you are dealing with. “Safety” and “taking things slow” makes a good excuse, but very often she’s nervous about disappointing you, and this may be for good reason.

All of that said, here are some great ideas for using IM as an effective tool:

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Hire Me As Your Dating Coach, Get Into A Top MBA Program

As you already know, our dating coaching style is VERY different.

We talk about excellence a lot. Not just with women, but in life. That’s exactly what character-based attraction and seduction is all about. [Note: To certain black-hat “bootcampers” who are bogarting my term lately, I challenge you to a debate on how exactly “character-based” anything can be taught by a FICTIONAL character. But I digress.] You become a great man (as opposed to a “Mr. Nice Guy” or a “Bad Boy”) and you attract great women. It isn’t all that complicated.

So it’s perhaps not entirely unexpected to receive an e-mail like the one I just opened about a half-hour ago from Frank in Boston: Continue reading “Hire Me As Your Dating Coach, Get Into A Top MBA Program”

New And Improved: E-mails To The Highest Quality Women Online

In a previous post we considered the art of writing first e-mails to the very sharpest women online. In the case study I chose, the real-world group of targeted women in Los Angeles included actresses, models and even a former world-class gymnast.

Our hero, James, certainly had his work cut out for him. In order to succeed with this echelon of hotties and dominate his metro area, his first e-mails would have to rise to a level above some admittedly serious competition out there in Hollyrock.

Well, based on the input given after the first pass, James has gone back to the drawing board. Read on to find out how things are progressing.

As before, my words are represented in italics. The order in which he wrote the women changed this time, but note that I retained the sequencing convention from last time for easier reference this time.

So let’s take a look, shall we?… Continue reading “New And Improved: E-mails To The Highest Quality Women Online”

Phone Game: Golden Input From A Woman

It’s no secret that we’ve been talking a lot about “phone game” around here recently.

Not only is the latest Power Session devoted to it, the latest X & Y Communications newsletter was also.

In that newsletter, we highlighted an e-mail question sent in by Brendan in California about finding the balance between calling a woman too little and too much.

Now as you know by now, not being “underground” has its advantages. Women not only tend to like what we tell guys about improving their skills with them, they also tend to get on my newsletter list and stay there.

Most claim that they enjoy reading about themselves from a guy’s perspective and/or regard the information as a guide to how to identify great men out there. Interesting, no doubt…either way.

Best of all, I often hear from the women on the list. Ever so often I even have the good fortune to open an e-mail from a woman that really offers some additional “insider information”.

About ten minutes ago, I received just such an email from Karen in Portland. In it she talks about her own “phone game” experiences. This “first-person” perspective is absolutely golden.

But the real gift to each and every guy reading this blog is her tandem of “Top 10 Lists” dealing with female reactions to calls from guys. Priceless.

Will you agree that everything she says is universally transferrable? Maybe, maybe not. But we all would do well to treat her message as a valid case study.

Enjoy… Continue reading “Phone Game: Golden Input From A Woman”

The Chick Whisperer #18 — Defining Relationships And Making Solid Decisions

I finally got my act together and released Episode #18 of The Chick Whisperer podcast last night. This must mean we’re “legal”. Were things only that uncomplicated…LOL

My co-host for this one is my good friend Frank B. Kermit. Frank and I have something in common. We’re each married to our own respective version of the greatest woman we’ve ever met.

So we got together, answered one of your voicemails and proceeded to throw down on the subject of having complete, total control over your world when it comes to women. You may need a shot or two of good ol’ Patron Silver after you hear what we’ve got in store for you.

After all, it’s time to stop listening to the hype over what someone else thinks you should want from your relationships with women and make your own decisions from a position of strength.

And check it out–you have more options than you think. It’s time to man up and exercise them. Guys like Frank and I have your back all the while, no doubt.

So getchasum. In fact, if you hit the graphic above and “subscribe” on iTunes that would rule…especially if you leave us a review. It’s YOU the listeners who have moved us up the charts again into a firm spot on the front page in our iTunes category. Right on.

And don’t forget, I have a special unsyndicated bonus episode with Brent Smith tucked away for newsletter subscribers. Get on board at www.thechickwhisperer.com .

Be Good,

Scot

Sick Of The Games And Manipulation? Here’s The Cure.

It’s no secret that Carlos Xuma and I think alike on a lot of things. He and I have become frequent collaborators and good friends.

If you are in on VIRTUOSITY, then you already know that Carlos joined me as a co-instructor for a killer session on “Games People Play”, where we spent an epic-length session detailing ways people manipulate and “play games” with each other in relationships.

AND…if you have experienced that audio program, you also know that Carlos announced to the world on it that his next CD Series was going to be on social games…and it would likely be his magnum opus.

Well, just this week Carlos made good on that promise by releasing Power Social Skills. Having taken the full tour of what he’s offering here, I’m pretty much convinced that he has lived in a cave for the last five months getting this absolutely perfect (well…between martial arts classes and some quality time with the ladies here and there, I’m sure).

Now I’ve always had full trust in Carlos’ work, having enjoyed it even before I kissed the IT world “buh-bye” forever to do what I do today. But what he has unleashed here is completely different. And even as the guy who has concocted something as
rambunctiously content-rich as VIRTUOSITY, I’ll be the first to step up and say that this has to be one of the most value-packed and overwhelmingly beneficial programs for men I’ve ever seen.

What’s more, it covers one of the most critical yet most overlooked areas when it comes to being successful with women.

Seriously, you can attract all the hotties you want. But if you repeatedly fall prey to an undercurrent of “games” and flat-out manipulation your life will still be M-I-S-E-R-A-B-L-E. You didn’t really need me to remind you of that though, did you? After all, how many online profiles have you ever seen that clearly state “No Games”? That’s because being with someone who plays them sucks.

The problem, though, is that nobody really seems to be able to define what “games” are, really.

OK, so here it is. Take a look at what Carlos has going on and you’ll quickly recognize how dramatic the benefits of getting in on it will be. I mean, he’s breaking down one hundred thirty-two different kinds of social games and brands of manipulation. Are you kidding me? Well, it’s all there in black and white (or black and yellow) on his web-site. Get that level of knowledge and wisdom down, gentlemen, and you’ll pretty much own your own private skillset of super powers.

So do you get the idea that I am impressed by this program? My guess is that you will be too…but you have to take a peek for yourself to know for sure:

Power Social Skills

Next time I’ll be back with a post on a topic that is a bit edgier than what you are used to from me…get ready. Until then…

Be Good,

Scot

Never, Ever Settle Now Available Separately…For A Limited Time

Scot McKay's Fourth Book Is Titled Never, Ever Settle

Okay, okay.

I’ve had bunches of e-mails asking if I was ever going to make my fourth book Never, Ever Settle available outside of the VIRTUOSITY package.

With so many people taking their 2008 new year’s resolutions seriously (and the year is already about 4% up, folks, so get crackin’!), I figure now’s the time to let as many people get their hands on it as would like to.

It’s like a little slice of VIRTUOSITY, really.

So if “Failure To Deploy” is a recurring theme in your dating life, it’s time to do something about that (literally). Never, Ever Settle covers the causes of dating failure in vivid detail. More importantly, however, it gives you the straight-up practical plan necessary to take action and start getting what you deserve.

After all, it is the direct sequel to Deserve What You Want, building on that foundation. And there’s MUCH, MUCH less than you think standing in the way between you and the great women who should be in your life.

If you haven’t yet read Deserve What You Want, you should. And if you have, you’ll love Never, Ever Settle.

Be Good,

Scot

I Want You But I Can’t Stand You [Video]

Ever meet someone you really can’t stand, but yet you feel this sexual desire for him or her anyway? What’s up with that? I mean, someone can insult you, irritate you to no end or–amazingly–even be bent on making one’s life flat-out miserable, yet the sexual attraction is clearly there.

Take a look at the video below for the low-down on this completely unintuitive but very real human phenomenon…

I’ll be back with another video for you in a few days…this time on why we’re not “underground” when it comes to seduction around here. It’s all in broad daylight…next time.

Be Good,

Scot

The Best Wintertime First Date Idea Ever

Here is some Q & A that went on recently between a reader and I. While there are some key general principles in there about setting up oneself for success on first dates, the greatest takeaway is the reader’s date idea itself. Read on.

Hi Scot:

I just thought i would email you to see if you have an answer that you could give to me advising me about going on a date with this beautiful girl.
I have had the date set up for a couple of weeks and explained to her that because of Christmas I had no money, setting a date in January (well next Friday).

I’m planning on taking her ice skating and then for a nice meal. But I found out that she has another date tomorrow night (Sunday) and I was just wondering what your advice would be about this–whether to keep the date as I do really want to take her out, but I just don’t know as of [learning about her going] on this other date.

Also any tips you could give me that would really give me a good chance to get a second date and take her out even more.
I have my hopes up about this date as I don’t have much luck with the ladies but I am hopefully changing this over the next year.

Many thanks,

Colin (United Kingdom)

Hello Colin:

Well, first of all I wouldn’t have told her that I needed two weeks to plan the date because I had no money.

Second of all…I wouldn’t have needed to have any money anyway.

Third…I would have recognized that a truly sharp, worthwhile woman cares more about my interest in spending time with her than how much money I’m spending. And I would have made plans for a LOT sooner…if just to go Christmas shopping together or to see the Christmas lights downtown. Whatever.

That she has a date with another guy tomorrow is in and of itself immaterial. That’s the bed you’ve made by empowering her to explore other options during the interim between when you asked and when your date actually happens. If after that date she likes him more than you, that’s the way it goes. On the other hand, if he blows it for himself as many guys do (either by being too sexually pushy and or…wait for it…by trying to impress her with how much money he spends on her) then you may actually be handed an opportunity on your evening with her to show her how a real man operates.

As an aside, the fact that she TOLD you about the other date is likely a sign of interest in YOU rather than him. Think about it. Yet you are asking me questions as if you feel you’ve already “lost” before you’ve even gone out with her. Success with her and with women in general has to start with the confident mindset of a man who is a winner and assumes rich options with women.

If you haven’t told her about the “nice dinner” after the ice skating plans, I wouldn’t. I am also assuming you know how to ice skate decently (not necessarily like Sidney Crosby or anything, but at least as well as she’ll be able to) and therefore can demonstrate confidence and leadership.

That said, ice skating sounds like an exceptional first date idea. There are built-in ways to be “physical” together that are quintessentially perfect for sending the right messages. You can hold her hand, skate arm-in-arm if she’s a beginner, and physically help her up after a fall (not by the arm like an NBA player, please).

You can even perform the all-powerful “out of context dance twirl” a time or two when you’ve stopped skating and are ready to step off the ice (or already have). All of these examples allow you to show that you can lead physically WITHOUT coming off as a horn dog. Note the distinct difference between what I’m talking about here and “escalating kino”, which is how sex-focused men try to manipulate women whom they assume–and typically mistakenly so–aren’t wise to what’s going on.

Ice skating. Good call. Most Definitely.

Pick her up for the evening and take her skating. Don’t plan on this lasting for any longer than an hour and a half or so because it gets old (and cold) faster than you think–especially if there’s a lot of falling going on. Believe me when I tell you a nice restaurant is not going to fit the texture of the evening after that anyway.

Assuming you two are having fun, then you announce that it’s time to go grab a bite afterward. Choose somewhere that’s inexpensive and with a lightweight atmosphere. It is imperative that this be about continuing to spend time together now that you’re hungry having ice skated for a while. You are not attempting to impress her with dinner here. Then, continue the fun conversation making best use of the doubtlessly humorous or otherwise talkworthy stuff that happened while you were ice skating.

Getting this right isn’t difficult, my good friend. I can guarantee it’s at least easier than learning to ice skate was.

Oh…and lest I forget. Watch for the perfect first-kiss moment, which could come at any time. If you help her up after another slip up on the ice and she stays close to you and looks you in the eye rather than skating off right away, PLEASE kiss her…briefly but effectively. If you don’t, every woman reading this will come to your door and go “Ruth Buzzi” on your happy beating you over the head with their purses.

Assuming the best in the above scenario, when you take her home after dinner, walk her to her door, tell her you had fun and that you’ll call her. Then LEAVE. No more kisses. Get this last step right and the guy from the date before yours is in BIG trouble. She won’t be able to stop thinking about you. And please don’t wait “three to five days” to call the poor chick, will you?

Enjoy.

Be Good,

Scot

Women Want A Man Who Will Lead…Here’s Proof

In the latest edition of the X & Y Communications weekly newsletter, I shared with you an e-mail from a man who had been dating a particularly sharp woman. She had been showing some clear signs of interest, including staying out with him way later than she planned on date #2.

Yet, our hero (in this case Russell from Michigan) was used to distinct “chasing behavior” from other women he had been dating recently. So when that latest woman didn’t exactly follow suit in the form of calling first, suggesting where to go on dates, making overt statements of interest, etc. he took it as either a minimal interest level or (gasp) manipulative behavior. After all, why should a guy have to do all the “heavy lifting” here?

In my answer to his e-mail, I reassured him that the woman was likely very interested in him. Importantly, she was equally likely not a manipulator who wanted him to “chase” her.

My take on the situation was in fact that she was simply one of those rare, amazing women who demonstrates a sense of dignity that rare, amazing men ALSO tend to possess. That is to say, she understands the attraction-killing danger of giving away one’s power in the form of neediness and/or insecurity.

She wasn’t about “chasing” anyone…or about “chasing” at all, really. High-quality men and women are past that much in the same way that Mark Cuban is past checking out his personal credit report.

But most importantly, like virtually all other particularly sharp women, she was looking for benevolent leadership from our main man Russell. She requires a man who can make decisions, have situations handled, and set plans based on genuine recognition of her reasonable preferences and desires as a woman.

Since releasing that newsletter, the responses I’ve received have been fascinating. Typically, some of you guys have been sending me examples similar to Russell’s from your own life asking me to unravel what occurred. Apparently, what we’re discussing here is so foreign to standard “Seduction Community” teaching that it’s frying our collective circuits as guys.

But wait…I also heard from numerous women. That’s right, gentlemen…the ladies are reading the newsletter. And here’s a random sampling from an almost uniform chorus of female voices:

“Hey Scot…..loved your email today (female here) You are so on the mark with your thought process and advice. Where have all the men gone that can ‘lead’? Appreciate your candid info….you really know ‘what a girl wants’. HAPPY NEW YEAR” –Diane in Canada

“I’ve been reading your articles for a few weeks now and I just had to respond to your latest article – YOU ARE SO RIGHT ON!! I am so perplexed/frustrated with meeting men who have absolutely no leadership skills like this guy. We have a great time but then do… ????
Anyway, I wish all men would be reading your newsletters. I mostly just think they are clueless with no malice intended but I do NOT want to be a teacher. Keep up the good work. I really appreciate it and hope to meet a wonderful one of these days!” –Ginger from Parts Unknown

“I love your response to Russel, and you have my sincere congratulations for recognizing and pointing out the quality women truly do want men who lead. I understand Russell’s confusion over the situation with the woman he tried to date. It seems that men particularly have a stereotype of women – that we are bossy and always “want to call the shots.” In reality, we call the shots because the men often do not. But, deep down, we really want a man to lead. We adore men who will stand up for his convictions and give us something to respect and follow. Trust me, I am a woman who have been married to the same man for over 12 years. So, keep up the great work!! All the best.” –Kirsten from Who Knows Where

…and this gem:

“I don’t usually respond to any dating emails but this one was compelling and
I couldn’t resist. You summed it all up by telling him that we women crave masculinity. It’s a NON-NEGOTIABLE! Women can’t resist a charming, smart, socially savvy man who leads. That is
sexy to us. A man who can lead in turn makes us want to explode with our femininity, which is what you men want, right!?

So, guess what boys…we won’t even keep your number on our cell phones if you don’t show us we are worth the effort! Any indication of weakness on your part automatically eliminates you from the running!

By expecting the woman to call (at least in the initial stages of dating) you are sending this woman a message that you Do Not Value HER (which is also an indication of arrogance on your part..way up there on that list of turn-offs). How can you possibly expect to win-over that “High-Quality” woman if you don’t let her know that she’s worth your time and effort?! If you don’t do your part to inspire us to shower you with our femininity, then you can’t have it. Period. End of story. It’s simple guys…pick up the phone…D-I-A-L! Show us your manliness–and your reward will be great.” –Abby from Seattle

So, Abby. Tell us how you really feel, huh?

All of this reminds me to remind you that what we are up to around here is not “underground”. I couldn’t really give a rat’s hindquarters if women “find out” what we’re talking about. In fact, see for yourself…they not only know about it, they’re cheering me on.

I hear one of you guys out there saying, “Yeah Scot, but women will say they want something from a guy and their actions will demonstrate the exact opposite.”

Really? Are you sure about that, or is that just something you learned from somewhere “underground”?

Yeah well, I like it right here above ground, where the sun shines. Real women have spoken, and you can choose to believe that they know what they’re talking about…or not.

As for me, I’ve always preferred women who knew what they were talking about. Women who say one thing and do something else kind of bore me. Then again, men who are like that are sort of a drag also, as anyone who has ever been in the business world (or bought a used car) can attest.

So here’s my challenge to you for 2008, guys: Are you going to keep doing what you’ve always done when it comes to attracting women?

If you’ve decided that enough is enough and that it’s time to trade in mediocrity for a wildly successful dating life, then you know what to do. Here’s the link I mentioned in the newsletter…and those of you who are on the guest list for it have the secret code I gave.

I’ve got your back and am at your side as you attain a level of success with great women that very, very few men will ever even realize exists.

And ladies, what about you? Do you refuse to settle for anyone less than a man of masculine leadership and character? If you think all men are lacking in that department, it’s time to cut loose old ways of thinking and begin to recognize the simple truth that there are a multitude of men out there who deserve great women. The question is, are you ready to meet one? If you don’t have a clear answer, here’s a great place to start.

Take care, and thanks again to everyone who writes and/or leaves comments. I’ll be back again in a day or two with what could be the ultimate wintertime first date idea.

Be Good,

Scot

So, You Want To Eliminate The Competition? (Part Two) [Video]

Last time we talked about having to “compete” for people you’d like to date. But what happens once you’ve actually “won”? Let’s face it, at that point it’s time to re-evaluate, lest you face the type of danger I talk about in today’s video:

Be Good,

Scot

So, You Want To Eliminate The Competition? (Part One) [Video]

A lot of times Emily and I get e-mails from men and women (especially) who claim that they can’t stand competing for the affections of MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex). Typically, they want to know how to eliminate such competition and/or how to “just say know”, as it were, thereby refusing to compete altogether.

Well, have I got a take on that concept for you. Watch below…

As noted, that’s Part One. Next time we’ll talk about the opposite side of the coin: What happens if you actually succeed at “eliminating the competition”? Prepare for a somewhat shocking answer…

Be Good,

Scot

Massive Success With Women This Holiday Season, Or Burger King? You Decide

Find out how to get a great woman to hang out with for the holidays, and what to do once you’ve found her. Everything from how to handle Christmas parties, gift advice, fashion, social dynamics and–of course–secrets to making New Year’s Eve a blast.

If you weren’t able to make the original call, we’ve got cleanly edited copies of that latest tele-seminar we threw on the subject last week available for you to download for a paltry “love offering” of seven bucks (Yes, that’s even in US dollars).

Basically, this means you can rake in all of this outrageous wisdom and thereby separate yourself from the “herd” for about the cost of a super-sized #5 with cheese (for example).

Then again, I’m kind of hungry right now, so maybe that’s not as compelling as analogy as it could be.

What the heck…get your lunch AND your success with MOTOS “super-sized” for a grand total of what, $14? If only you could point and click yourself a Whopper this easily.

The important part here is that Carlos Xuma, Dean Cortez, and I gave up tips on holiday dating and how to maximize your opportunities to meet women this season, and how to kick off 2008 with the best bang of all. Most of this stuff was 100% original. Here’s what I mean:

–Have you ever wondered what kind of opportunities there are to meet women this holiday season? We’ll give you ideas on how, when, and where to meet them (and this involves ACTUALLY meeting them, not just talking about it).

–How to focus on the ridiculously ingenious ways to get the right women interested that are practically BUILT IN to the holiday season

–Fashion styles and statements you can make to stand out from the rest of the guys

–Giving a gift to your woman? Potential girlfriend? We’ll talk about what gifts are good to get for a woman – and which gifts you must avoid at all costs! (This alone is worth the $7…no doubt)

–How to handle your holiday parties, and especially making the biggest impact on New Years Eve (Warning: You might be a little shocked by my “crown jewel” New Year’s strategy)

You can get your copy of the Holiday Hookup tele-seminar HERE. But hurry…by this time next week the program is going to be back to its “street price” of $14. So getting in on it now is like…well…buying yourself a free lunch. So who says “there ain’t no free lunch”…sort of?

Be Good,

Scot

Hey, Watch Where You’re Going! [Video]

Here is one of the most elementary secrets to making sure you maintain an image of “coolness” at all times. Yet, a shocking number of guys completely overlook it. The video below explains all…

So what do you think? Any humorous vignettes to share?

Recent Interview With Rion Williams

Not too long ago I had the chance to sit down with the “thinking man’s” dating and seduction coach, and fellow Texan, Rion Williams. I’m pleased to have been his guest.

In this interview for his Lifestyle Dating Radio podcast, Rion and I generate some completely original material as we discuss exactly what it is that makes women feminine and how we as men should respond to that. It’s all about LEADERSHIP, my brethren.

Be sure to subscribe using the link below and GETCHASUM….

Rion Williams’ Lifestyle Dating Radio

You probably already know who Rion is, but just in case here’s the link:

All Things Rion Williams

Rion is also featured in VIRTUOSITY, discussing with me how to ignite femininity. It was an epic session.

I’ll be back atcha again real soon with another video blog.

Be Good,

Scot

FREE Teleseminar On Holiday Season Success With Women: TONIGHT (12/6)

QUICK REMINDER:

I wanted to remind you guys out there about our next FREE Teleseminar happening on 12/6
– THAT’S TONIGHT.

Remember that this is a TELE-seminar – meaning that you dial in on
your phone to listen in. No travel necessary!

Carlos Xuma and I (and maybe a special guest…) will be giving up tips on holiday dating and how to maximize your opportunities with women this season, and how to kick off 2008 with the best bang of all…

– Have you ever wondered what kind of opportunities there are to meet women this holiday season? We’ll give you ideas on how, when, and where to meet women…

– How do you handle New Years parties?

– Hidden strategies that help you meet more women

– Killer secrets to maximizing special–but usually overlooked–advantages the Holidays bring

– Giving a gift to your woman? Potential girlfriend? We’ll talk about what to give for gifts and why…

…plus a whole bunch more. Here’s the link to get the call information:

http://www.instantteleseminar.com/?eventid=1272945

We also need your questions, so be sure to submit them in the form
on the page…

We suggest you dial-in early to get this presentation in its
entirety.

Remember, it’s a conference call where you dial in and listen in…

TIME: 6:00 PM PACIFIC / 9:00PM EASTERN (GMT -5)
DATE: Thursday, December 6th.
PHONE NUMBER TO DIAL: 218-486-3695
CONFERENCE ID (Enter When Prompted): 167688#

That’s TONIGHT! Mark it on your list, check it twice, and we’ll talk to you
later (literally).

Be Good,

Scot