We get quite a number of e-mails from both men and women asking where in the world they can meet MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex).
Some don’t exactly live in thriving metropolises. Most don’t feel comfortable approaching strangers in public, as much as we’d love to wave a magic wand and cure everyone’s “approach anxiety” in one fell swoop.
And it’s not like their workplace is a “magic wonderland” of dating possibilities either. Office politics, potential awkwardness later, or even direct company policy give pause to many of us insofar as “dipping one’s pen in the company ink” is concerned.
How about getting “set up” with friends of friends? Erratic at best, if not potentially disastrous.
Sure, online dating rocks. But only if you’ve taken the time to master it (which you can get started on here or here).
And if you don’t want to take the time to master online dating but insist on trying it anyway, you could go the eHarmony route. Not.
So how does one defeat the frustration of not having enough MOTOS around once and for all?
Enter MeetUp.com.
Seriously, I don’t want to ever hear any kvetching about “not knowing where to meet MOTOS” every again. Ever.
Basically, if you’ve been hiding under a rock and don’t know about MeetUp.com, it’s essentially a website designed to help people meet together offline, generally based around a common interest that all members of a particular “meetup group” share.
So you basically enter your metro area, type in a few key words and voila (or viola, as someone I know always writes).
Now, here it is. This is great for meeting a bunch of guys to go sportbike riding with or to watch some out-of-town sports team with.
But the true “killer app” is finding more “co-ed” common interests where you’re likely to meet MOTOS. The site is like a “secret weapon” for that.
According to Ken from New Jersey, who is on my mailing list and wrote me telling me his own MeetUp.com success story, the best part is that not only can you meet women, you can expect to see them again at future “meetups” so there is no pressure to “attract and close” as soon as you are introduced to them. Sweet.
Emily is actually way ahead of me as far as MeetUp.com is concerned. While I’m well aware that she has recently started a group for Mom’s with pre-school aged litluns on there (with great success), she had already long since written the concept I’m sharing with you today into her latest program for women. We’ll be telling you more about that one soon, by the way.
So there’s yet another solid reason to consider MeetUp.com as part of your strategy for meeting MOTOS: Both men and women are all over this, at least potentially.
How about it? Could you give this a try? Had my head been screwed on straight a few years ago, I would have been all over meeting some women who were into karaoke, cooking, travel or mountain biking.
And no doubt, if you don’t find the group you’re looking for, you can drop a measly $75 and start the group yourself, and even recoup it through $5 or $10 “annual dues” if you must. Being the Grand Pooh-bah of your group represents instant social-proof, as I see it.
So give it a shot and let me know how it goes. Got any MeetUp.com success stories already? Share them below–I’d love to hear.
Be Good,
Scot
