Yes, you read the title correctly.
If you want to change your life and get better with everything, take this step now. Delete the following songs from your iPod.
Here’s my “Top-Ten List Countdown”:
10. My Everything (98 Degrees)
“You are my everything
Nothing your love won’t bring
My life is yours alone”
9. Faith (George Michael)
“Before you throw my heart back on the floor
Oh baby I reconsider
My foolish notion
Well I need someone to hold me
But I’ll wait for something more”
8. When It’s Over (Sugar Ray)
“I’m wishing you
You feel the same and just come back to me
I need you and when you go go go go”
7. Wait for You (Elliot Yamin)
“Baby I will wait for you
If you think I find it just ain’t true
I really need you in my life
No matter what I have to do
I’ll wait for you”
6. (Everything I Do) I Do It For You (Brian Adams)
“There’s no love – like your love
And no other – could give more love
There’s nowhere – unless you’re there
All the time – all the way
Oh – you can’t tell me it’s not worth tryin’ for
I can’t help it – there’s nothin’ I want more”
Have you done it yet? Starting to see a pattern? Good. Delete these other ones as well.
5. When Everything Seems Wrong (Ari Hest)
“Whenever we need each other
I cant picture another arm around you”
4. Always (Bon Jovi)
“When he holds you close, when he pulls you near
When he says the words you’ve been needing to hear
I’ll wish I was him ’cause those words are mine
If you told me to cry for you
I could
If you told me to die for you
I would
Take a look at my face
There’s no price I won’t pay
To say these words to you”
3. End of the Road (Boyz II Men)
“Girl I’m here for you
All those times of night when you just hurt me
And just run out with that other fella
Baby I knew about it, I just didn’t care
You just don’t understand how much I love you do you?
I’m here for you”
2. You’re Beautiful (James Blunt)
“You’re beautiful, it’s true.
I saw your face in a crowded place,
And I don’t know what to do,
‘Cause I’ll never be with you.”
1. She’s So High (Tal Bachman)
“But somehow I can’t believe
That anything should happen
I know where I belong
And nothing’s gonna happen
‘Cause she’s so high… above me”
Can you hear any of these quotes in our thoughts? What we hear influences us and our expectations of ourselves. Compare the attitude, the chutzpah of “Bad to the Bone” by George Thorogood to say, “She’s So High” by Tal Bachman. Which of these two is cooler? Who would you rather be like?
In an unofficial poll of several people with a cool certificate, I asked about “She’s So High” and immediately heard “Ugh, I hate that song.” A friend of mine once dumped a guy that said this song “made him think of her”. I’m sure this wasn’t the only reason, but it paints the picture.
These song are what I call weak music. Do you know any one that listens to ‘weak’ music? Weak music is like second hand smoke–all those around suffer. I know I start to feel helpless when listening to it.
If you have other music from these same artists, consider it a warning sign. You may delete those too. Also delete “Scotty Doesn’t Know” by Lustra from the Eurotrip soundtrack. This song won’t help if you were a “Scotty”. Delete this one as well.
Take back your thoughts! Eliminating negative messages and feeding yourself positive ones is a big step towards building confidence and getting your “inner game” in order.
You’ll feel an effect almost 24 hours after taking this step. What songs did you delete?
–Austin
This is something I think about quite often, actually.
That James Blunt tune in particular really bums me out.
The first time Emily and I ever took an extended road trip that song was popular and they kept playing it and playing it on the radio. We finally just turned the blasted radio off.
I’ve always wondered how Motown got a “free pass” in the wussy-boy lyrics department for so many years. I honestly think women LOVE LOVE LOVE this sort of mushy, weak-kneed lyrics even though they can’t stand when guys are like that in real life.
One of life’s great ironies, and probably one more reason why so many guys are so confused about what women want nowadays.
The first ten or so times I heard James Blunt’s “You’re Beautiful”, I didn’t even realize that it was a guy singing the song.
I’ve also seen women on match and yahoo post the full lyrics to that song as their profile text. Yow.
That’s outrageous. And more than once, no less.
I can see it now, “If you don’t have the words to ‘You’re Beautiful’ by James Blunt memorized, don’t bother!”
I will say though, I was at a Bon Jovi concert with my moms friends, women were going nuts for always. Though, you have to be Bon Jovi for that effect. James Blunt, yeck. ZZ Top should be prescription for those influenced by Blunt, or something else along those lines.
That’s the problem in singing karaoke. One time I was singing Motown and almost got nauseous over the lyrics I was saying. Ouch.
Better is Sinatra and the like. In my vocal range and a lot more masculine.
Avi Drissman’s last blog post: Lesson for today
Avi, you’re a guy I could have a beer with.
Sometimes I sit Emily on a bar stool up front at our favorite karaoke place and sing “Can I Steal A Little Love” to her.
She eats it up.
Yeah…now that’s telling it like it is with an ATTITUDE. Igniting that femininity like a champ while still showing some healthy interest.
Sinatra rocked.
Other HORRIBLE “Mr. Nice Guy” classics, though, could include:
Misty (Johnny Mathis)
Faithfully and/or Open Arms (Journey)
Do You Really Want To Hurt Me (Culture Club)
Angel Is A Centerfold (J. Geils Band)
All Out Of Love, or anything else by… (Air Supply)
I Need Love (LL Cool J)
Nice post, Austin. There are so many “love” songs out there that make me cringe. They are like a part of the mass media campaign to brain wash men into wussiness.
It’d be great if you could post something on films to avoid – they are even worth I think!
Sasha
Hands down, just about ANYTHING of Sean Kingston’s. “You’re way too beautiful girl, that’s why it’ll never work, you have me suicidal….suicidal….etc.” Blech!
Really. How did we let that song off the hook for so long here?
I’ll take a look at “Can I Steal A Little Love”.
But it really does frustrate me when people talk about their favorite songs, but when I call them on it they claim they love the music but don’t really pay attention to the words (Lennon’s _Imagine_ being a prime example).
Oh well. I remember the days when my sister and I went to college (a commuter one) and we used to listen to the radio on the way in. After we’d play “name the song” we’d analyze the relationships described… “she’s clingy,” “he needs to grow some balls,” “they need to take a break.” Funny how there are so few normal relationships enshrined in song.
I have a better solution: if you ever had any of those songs in the first place, redeem yourself by winning a Darwin award.
Conversely, what songs should you ADD to your iPod?
Hey guys,
I agree with Joe Jensen. We sure need to know what to avoid…but we also need to know what to get! And not only regarding music… Scot, I’ve been meaning to ask you for a while to get together a list of the best movies every guy should watch (the idea got started when you mentioned “Roman Holiday” somewhere and talked about the attitude projected by the guy in that movie).
So? what do you guys think? Two new blog posts, one for songs, one for movies? 😉
~Luis
You know, not a bad idea. I think there are TONS of movies and songs. Let’s see about getting blog posts done on the subject.
Meanwhile, there is a post on the forum going on about this:
http://xandycommunications.net/forum/viewtopic.php?t=76
AND…come to think of it, you can use the same e-mail address you’re already on our newsletter with to log on at http://www.thechickwhisperer.com and get a free collection of video samples, mostly from movies that are great ones for guys to watch. Almost forgot about that.
I think you should probably add “Every Breathe You Take – The Police” to the list. It reminds me a lot of the Bon Jovi song aswell.
Yeah…crazy how the Police’s most popular song was arguably their wimpiest.
Sting did have some recurring angst about women going on there BITD though. No doubt.