A Dating Coach’s Take On Why Mass Shootings Happen

 
I don’t consider myself a world expert in sociology, abnormal psychology or criminal justice. Nor am I sworn to the political right or left.

Given the conversation at hand, all of that might be an advantage in my case. At the very least, I have no problem “opening a can” on the conversation about the mass-shooting problem that nobody seems to be having. Whether that’s a can of worms or whoop-ass is for you to decide.

But either way, I’m not about to pretend I’ve figured out any definitive solution to such a complex issue. Rather, I’m simply about to present what has occurred to me naturally as a man who is immersed in the art and science of social dynamics and male/female relationships on a daily basis.

As such, the entire purpose of this post is to open the discussion among rational people who think for themselves. That means if you’ve been successfully propagandized by either the Right or the Left, prepare to be pissed off.

Remarkable stuff starts happening when one thinks for him or herself. I would love to have finished this piece sooner, but it’s been one of those posts where I’ve kept getting haunted by new and intriguing ideas even when I’m trying to think about something else.

I mean, by now my wife Emily has grown accustomed to me leaping out of bed in the night, all but sprinting to my computer with a spring in my step and a light bulb glowing over my head. But this time it has all been kicked it up a notch. Just last night I found myself driving home from the gym repeating “there’s a cause…pipe bomb…masculine self-fulfilling prophecy” over and over in my head so the spontaneous ideas wouldn’t evaporate before I managed to get home.

But the time has come. On with this crucial discussion.

 
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12 Things Some Guys Do, Mistakenly Thinking They’re Cool

 
Women Made EasyLet’s have some fun today.

Recently I got into a discussion with a few friends—some female, no less—on the subject of what guys who decidedly don’t “get it” are like.

Essentially, it quickly became a referendum on coolness, particularly in the eyes of women.

As you might imagine it turned out to be a truly fascinating conversation. As such, I felt compelled to share the finer points of it with you.

Recalling what was said, I’ve made a list of a dozen major missteps guys make in the name of being cool which typically result in women thinking the exact OPPOSITE about them.

But before I get on a roll ranting about them all, there are at least three points that deserve to be made.

 
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New Video Featuring Real-World Success Stories

OK, you know it’s a busy day when a complete, 100% overhaul to the main X & Y Communications website takes second billing.

But that’s the kind of day this is.

After all, we announced a photo contest in the last newsletter for guys, and we’ve chosen the winners. What’s more, we’ve already produced a video featuring the results:

Now for the benefit of you all who aren’t newsletter subscribers (even though you should be) the contest was very simple: Send me your best pic of yourself with a high quality woman.

So you betcha: Every single pic you see in that video above is 100% real and contributed by readers of the newsletter, Twitter followers, podcast listeners and/or Facebook friends.

No models. No actors. Just real-world results from real guys (and the real women who made it possible).

Now if you read tonight’s newsletter, I promised to introduce you to the winners. For sure, everyone who contributed a pic that made it to the video is getting a copy of my newest and yet-to-be-released book Chick Whispering.

But there are two Grand Prize Winners who stood out:

Hugo And One Of Many Women He Hangs Out With On A Regular Basis First, there’s Hugo. I kid you not, Hugo must have send me 20 or 25 different “entries”, and every one of them knocked me out.

As you can see from the “boxing gloves” picture below, the knockouts are frequent occurrences, obviously. In case you’re wondering about that pic, by the way, it was a little over-the-top for the video which is why I went with another one of his pics (shown).

But nonetheless, what really got my attention about the “boxing glove” pic was where it was taken. That’s not some sleazy club, gentlemen. That’s his kitchen.

Add in the simple fact that Hugo sent me a ton more like unto these (including that third pic you see here just for good measure), and he walked off with the victory.

Nice job, Hugo.

I Bet This Match Was A First Round Knockout But Wait...There's More

 

 

Hector Chillaxin' With A Hottie

 

Next, Hector. “Hector The Collector” to be precise. At least that’s what he refers to himself as in his Internet marketing videos on Facebook.

Well, that’s a first-class hottie that Hector’s hangin’ with in his winning photo. No doubt.

But now it’s time to tell you the real reason why Hector won.

It goes something like this. You see, I have this thing for guys who overcome “limiting beliefs” and/or challenging obstacles that life throws at them.

Hector classifies. According to him, he has lost one hundred and fifty pounds in the last two years or so. He also claims he has “about 50 more to go”.

So if Hector can win with women, what’s your excuse?

Way to go Hector…you’re a winner around here any day of the week.

Great job by everyone who entered. And yes…we’ll be running another contest soon.

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Sharpen Your Online Dating Skills Using Twitter [Video Blog]

Let’s face it, guys really know how to mess up their chances with women online.

As a matter of fact, it usually starts with the very first email a guy sends to a woman he’s interested in. And once he’s blown his chances there, it’s nearly impossible to recover.

Well, short of cutting and pasting something that has “proven” to work–for someone else–what’s a guy supposed to do to get past that hurdle?

And ladies, what if you actually get an e-mail from a guy you actually do want to respond to? How do you send the picture-perfect reply without messing up a potentially good thing? After all, how many lame-o messages did you have to sift through to get to that ONE really interesting one?

If you’ve ever wondered about this sort of stuff, I’ve got one word for you: Twitter.

Can you close your eyes and imagine a world where the right words flow naturally from your fingers to the keyboard and glowing, enthusiastic responses from exactly the type of person you want to meet are more the norm than the exception?

It all may not be as far away as you think. If you’ve got ten minutes, I’ve got a solution. Watch this, y’all:

 

 

OK, I know you have comments. Will you give what’s in the video a fair shot? Or do you think I got a hold of a hookah full of bad shisha? Either way, talk to me. And let me know what topics you’d like me to hit in future videos, would you?

If you did in fact dig this video, then please Digg this video using the funny looking string of icons below this post.

Also, if you re-tweet this URL I’ll be a happy man. Use the “Tweet This” button below if you prefer. I’ve got nothing but mad love for re-tweeters.

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How To Have More Fun On Twitter [Video Blog]

OK, so check it out. I realize that you’re probably thinking I must have a firm grasp of the obvious posting a video with a title like this.

After all, shouldn’t everyone be having fun on Twitter automatically? I mean, that should happen by default. Or so you’d think, at least.

Well, even though there are “haters”, nit pickers and even sneaky Amway reps among us, it doesn’t have to harsh your buzz. In fact, I can think of several ways to take your existing level on the Twitter Enjoyment Index (TEI?) and make it skyrocket through the roof…pretty much effortlessly, I might add. Here’s the video. It’s exactly five minutes flat…booyah.

 

 

So what did I miss here? Any other ideas on how to make Twitter fun? Sock it to me below, but no…posting “inappropriate” pictures of @emilymckay doesn’t count as an “idea”. But I admire your determination.

By the way, has anyone else ever noticed that people’s demeanor on Twitter tends to match the look on their face in their avatar photos with uncanny accuracy? Come to think of it, I guess that makes me a sly smartass…but an affable sort, at least.

So LOL, will you? I’m trusting you enjoyed this one, and I’ve got more coming soon.

As always, if you liked this particular video, please re-tweet this URL, or use the “Tweet This” button below. I appreciate your help in spreading the good word immensely.

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Twitter Lingo: The Insider’s Guide To The Language Of Twitter [Video Blog]

Lately we’ve been having a lot of fun on Twitter, which is pretty much the way it should be. One major way we’ve all been amusing ourselves is by inventing “Twitter Lingo”, or creative terms for various stuff that goes on in the Twittersphere.

Invariably, whenever such a term is used anytime after it’s initial identification and definition, people start @messaging wondering what the heck we’re talking about. I can see why. After all, this is all sort of a “secret vernacular” of Twitter being formed here…right before our very eyes.

So clearly it was necessary to put all the newest definitions in one place. At least to some degree, this video is meant to serve that purpose. Sure, I could have just made a written list or something, but how entertaining would that be?

Bear in mind, by the way, that “established” Twitter Lingo (e.g. “Twittersphere”, as used above) isn’t covered in this vid. You can find a comprehensive Twitter Dictionary here or here. The purpose here is to unveil all-original terms of our own.

So here we go. And fasten your seat belts, because I make no apologies for either the Blues Clues or the Michael Buckley references:

 

 

Got any “Twitter Lingo” of your own to add? If so, leave a comment below. We’re already in the process of collecting more, and I can’t help but believe that there will be a sequel to this movie in the near future, perhaps featuring such unforgettable gems as “Twitzerland”.

But as for the next post on deck, we’re going to video blog on “How To Have Fun On Twitter”, by request. If you have bright ideas for video topics, you know what to do. Comment below or email me at scot@twiduction.com.

And if you liked this particular video, please re-tweet this URL, or use the “Tweet This” button below. It’s quick and easy, and I greatly appreciate it.

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Why Follow Everyone Back On Twitter? [Video Blog]

It’s no secret that I personally follow just about everyone who follows me on Twitter. And that’s the way I like it.

Nevertheless, I sometimes get a stray comment here and there to the effect of, “Dude…it’s impossible to ‘follow’ that many people. I mean, there’s like no way you can keep up with all those updates from all those people, man.”

Indeed. But my response to such naysayers is simply this: Your Twitter is too small. If you take a look beyond the surface, there’s an incredible discovery that awaits. Here’s what I mean…

 

 

So having watched the video, what say you? I’m all but sure there will be some differing opinions out there, which makes me all the more curious to hear them. Twitter is yet an “emerging” social networking platform, so let’s hear your ideas on the matter.

I already hear someone asking, “Hey, McKay…what about spammers? What about people whose content I find offensive? Do I have to follow them back?” Well the simple answer is, of course, no. And you can also block them from following you. You’re at all times the master of your Twitter domain…literally.

By the way, my auto-follow app of choice is SocialToo.

If you liked the video, please re-tweet this URL or use the “Tweet This” button at the very bottom of this post. I greatly appreciate it.

Next time I post a video blog, we’re going to talk “Twitter Speak”. And we’ll hear from one of our coaches in between. Until then, don’t touch that dial…or, um, the mouse either. Actually, don’t let me discourage you from touching the Dial, especially if that’s the brand of soap you use.

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How To Get 1000 Twitter Followers In 12 Days [Video Blog]

OK, today I’ve got something that’s clearly a change of pace.

As you know, I’ve been harping on Twitter constantly lately. But that’s for good reason. This is not only the hottest social networking site on Earth at the moment, it’s also arguably the most significant in terms of blasting your online dating success through the roof–directly and indirectly, as subscribers to the newsletter already know.

In the real world, there are as many reasons to get geeked over Twitter as there are people on Twitter.

In fact, many (if not most) of you reading probably are not regular visitors to this blog, and linked here through something Twitter related as opposed to dating related.

So on with it.

Here’s the thing. Since New Year’s Day I’ve gone from 1000 followers on Twitter to almost 2200 as we speak.

And I’m convinced you can do it too.

I know what you’re thinking. Either, 1) “Yeah, but you’ve got a gazillion people on your mailing list”, or… 2) “Prove it.”

Well, if you’re of the former category consider that it took just under a year to get to 500 around here, so something had to change to make the spike happen.

And if you’re of the latter category? Well then, you’re just going to have to watch this 21-minute video, where I spill all the details:

 

 

Something tells me I’d better brace myself for some comments on this. Go ahead and tell me what’s on your mind.

And before we wrap up, here are a few notes I’ve thought about since the movie was recorded:

1) Yes…you can “piggy back” the basic strategy, in turn leveraging the recent timelines of those you link to from your own.

2) Yes…instead of one big session per day you can run several different quick sessions during the course of a day, just as long as you can keep a handle on non-followers as described.

3) And…just in case it wasn’t implicit, I agree 1000% with what the “Twitter gurus” say: You’ve got to be interesting, helpful and engaging when you “tweet” or else everyone is going to get a clue and unfollow you despite your best laid plans. In other words, what I’ve presented in the vid is a good way to get followers, but keeping them is up to you.

Maybe we’ll do a video on that last point later.

But for now, go on Twitter and getchasum. And always remember, as the video says, if you’re just “collecting followers” you’re missing the point. Join in the conversation, follow people with interests you as yet know nothing about, expand your horizons and–most of all–make lots of new friends.

And if you are interested in Twitter as a dating site, what you’ve seen in this video takes the idea of gaining quick social proof to the ultimate level, huh?

By the way, if you liked this and thought it was helpful, please re-tweet by using the “Tweet This” button at the very bottom of this post. Greatly appreciated!

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Twiduction: How To Meet Women On Twitter [Free E-Book]

As you already know, we talk a lot about online dating around here. As a matter of fact, we sort of live and breathe it.

We’re also sort of into social networking. Just a little bit. You can find us on Facebook, MySpace, and–most recently–Twitter.

But here’s the million-dollar question: Why hasn’t anyone figured out how to leverage Twitter as an online dating site?

I mean, it’s like a no-brainer. No kidding.

Yeah, yeah. I realize the “ratio” is terrible. So is your “competition”, believe me.

And I also realize that the idea of getting social proof on there looks really intimidating. Well, it doesn’t have to be.

You may also be wondering how much you can get done in a bunch of 140-character pieces. Let’s just say your first e-mails to women on Match.com are probably too bloated anyway, and this is just what the doctor ordered.

So if the “doctor” ordered it, what’s the prescription? Well, you got the “fever” to meet hotties on Twitter, and the only cure is Twiduction: How To Meet Women On Twitter.

Fortunately, unlike a real “doctor” there’s no “copay”, and I don’t need your insurance card. Forget that. I feel about doctors much like Erin Brockovich feels about lawyers. Then again, ditto on the lawyers, too.

But the important thing here is that what I originally envisioned as a four part blog series ended up being A LOT more than that. The more I wrote, the more I realized there was more to say than I had expected.

Ultimately, it became a full-on e-book. 73 pages worth.

Pretty much, it’s a “comprehensive guide” instead of an “overview”. I couldn’t stop writing…the ideas just kept on flooding the circuits.

And I mean, sheesh…I launched thing on Twitter (where else?) two nights ago, and within 24 hours I had e-mails from at least three techie guys informing me of the minute details I’d missed.

So what did I do? I added them in, of course. This is the friggin’ “Second Edition” already, for cryin’ out loud.

So I hope the techies are happy. Basically, even if you have no idea what a Twitter is, you’re about to get the complete hook-up in this book–iincluding the full tutorial on the site. Seriously.

All that’s long for, “instead of some blog posts, you’re fixin’ to get immediate gratification”.

Yes, based on that last sentence you’ve probably just come to a valid conclusion, so allow me to confirm your suspicions: The book is F-R-E-E. All you do is click here, and getchasum.

You enter your e-mail address on that page and start getting my newsletter…but you should be doing that already. Then, once you hit the button that takes you to the next page it’s all blue-sky from there.

Twiduction: How To Meet Women On Twitter will be staring straight at you in all its PDF glory, ready to be downloaded securely to your desktop and devoured.

And once again, in case you missed it the first time, that “devouring” is to be done for F-R-E-E.

So have fun with this one, guys. And ladies, you’ll likely enjoy it too, despite its title.

Whatever you do, “follow” me on Twitter and I’ll “follow” you back automatically: http://www.twitter.com/scotmckay

You can even “follow” Emily while you’re at it. She also “auto-follows”: http://www.twitter.com/emilymckay

More soon.

Be Good,

Scot McKay

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