It’s such a shame, really. Sometime back in the pickup artist era it was decided that whenever women casually bring up sex during first date conversation—or friendly chit-chat, even—it must be some sort of “test”.
The assumption there is she’s evaluating how we deal with the “hot potato” she’s suddenly dropped in our lap.
If we overreact with excitement and/or shock, she’ll assume we’re undersexed, inexperienced and desperate. Losing our cool is an epic fail, openly demonstrating we’re not in her league.
But if we remain composed and casually engage in the conversation as if it’s no big deal, then we score big points.
On the surface, this might appear to be a reasonably accurate assessment of such a situation and how we might potentially handle it as guys.
But what if it’s not a “test” at all? I’d contend it’s more of an invitation to join in the mating dance.
Unfortunately, most guys take an exhilarating opportunity like that and squander it. They sense they’re being “tested” and fall into self-preservation mode instead of reaching for high gear.
No, you don’t shy away from the conversation. But nor should you simply keep it casual and matter-of fact. That’s mere survival, not glorious victory.
Remember, she started it. Go forth boldly under such circumstances.
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