Whenever I set out to write a post like this, I’m tempted to lead with a disclaimer.
This time I’m going to indulge.
If you’re familiar with my writings, my general philosophies and especially the strength of my relationship with my wife Emily, you already know that I genuinely adore women.
What you ALSO fully realize is that both Emily and I take an “equal opportunity” approach to doling out what’s commonly known as “tough love”.
Yeah, well…what follows is one of those “tough love” posts.
So fair warning: It’s either time to buckle down or bring your sense of humor, one or the other.
That’s because I’m about to throw down a full-on rant about the seven types of women who shouldn’t even THINK about blindsiding some guy with their crazy, possibly sociopathic tendencies.
But to be clear, every bit of what I’m about to say is NOT gender-specific. Guys for whom the shoe fits are likely to get the short end of the relationship stick also, no doubt.
It’s just that 90% of this blog’s readership is men, hence the context.
Enough already. Let’s get on with it…
1. Negative Stone Faces
The vast majority of men I know fantasize about finding a “giggly” girlfriend.
To certain women, the very thought of that makes them angry and bitter enough to vomit.
They’re the single ones.
2. Black Hearted Souls
Hey, I’m not discounting the simple fact that truly evil people (and yes, they do exist—even despite the wishful musings of the eternally optimistic) might get a date and possibly even get married.
All I’m saying is that the aftermath that follows will invariably end in a return to the “single life”. That is, unless the “victim” is seriously co-dependent and chronically lacks self-respect.
Whoops…on that note, maybe this shouldn’t have made the list after all. But I’m keeping my hopes up to the contrary anyway (which makes me “eternally optimistic” in my own way, I suppose).
3. Man Haters
Here’s my simple question to women who flat-out can’t stand men to begin with, thinking every last one of us are liars, cheats or simply no darned good:
Why then are you even looking for a boyfriend?
Stay single, for everyone’s sake.
4. The “Un-Shallow”
This is not to be confused with “deep”. Rather, it’s my best shot at slapping a catchy moniker on the legions of physically unattractive women who BLAME men for not recognizing their “inner beauty”.
More specifically, I’m calling out the women who blatantly neglect their physical appearance in any and every way imaginable, electing instead to browbeat weak-willed, desperate guys into being with them anyway…all by way of thinly-veiled guilt trip.
The problem is that relatively few of those guys actually exist. And even if and when they do, mutual bitterness (and therefore resumption of singleness) awaits.
5. Masculine Women
Any women out there want to deny the foundational definition of masculinity and femininity as the respective male and female catalysts for sexual attraction?
Fine. Be my guest. But you won’t exactly impress most men with that philosophy. Most are naturally masculine and are therefore magnetically drawn to femininity.
6. Selfish, Greedy Manipulators
I’m not going to deny that high-pressure, sexual leverage, engineering “unplanned” pregnancies and “gas-lighting” can be breathtakingly effective ways to trick someone into a relationship…at least at first.
They’re just not forever, and rightly not.
In my well-traveled opinion, deep-rooted selfishness is the number one cause of repeated relationship failure.
7. Unreasonable Double-Standard Bearers
You could title this section “How To Make Any Man Bitter To The Core In One Easy Step”.
All you have to do to make him resent you to the point of blood-boiling frustration is nag him for stuff he isn’t even doing (e.g. allegedly flirting with some random female passerby), and then go out and do it yourself.
Talk about pressing “hot buttons”. That’s more like the “big red button” from the Cold War era.
Let’s just say that’s not exactly the best way to attract high-quality man who’ll love and adore you forever, ladies.
What do you know? I managed to keep this one relatively short-winded. Perhaps that’s because these seven factors are so widely-recognized that they therefore require little explanation.
One caveat is in order, however.
I remain nonplussed by the vast number of women who fit one or more of the criteria I’ve just delineated, yet somehow succeed at getting desperate men to chase them anyway, usually by virtue of certain ample body parts alone.
Even then, however, things rarely end well…leaving only a trail of crestfallen men AND women in the wake.
Alright then, enough. How do you actually select the RIGHT woman instead of the WRONG ones (over and over again)? Most guys overlook at least twelve all-important factors when choosing a girlfriend, but this report will make sure you never make such a critical mistake.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Another reason why this post may have been somewhat brief is because I’m sure I FORGOT to mention a bunch of other major factors. What are they? Let me have ‘em…
Got any personal stories or a rant of your own? Let’s hear it…
I dated a woman with the quailities 1,3,4,5,6 and 7. I may have left out 2 because I am still being nice(denial?) hahaha. I always thought something waas definitely wrong from my end and there would be, I am just being specific about your target audience.
Learning a ton from these neat articles.
Scott,
I read this post & have a few comments.
1. A good sense of humor is nice, just not stupid giggly.
2. Definitely stay from.
3. See #2.
4. Personality and quality of person, is a component of attractiveness, but it shouldn’t be used as an excuse for not making the best of everything you have to offer.
5. A “Tomboy” woman is appealing to me. All the ones I’ve seen, though, didn’t lose their feminine qualities.
6. See #2.
7. See #2.
All of your comments, with slight variations, can be applied to guys too.
Add 3 and you would have a top 10 list!
The first one is definitely NOT a referendum on intelligence. It’s purely about attitude.
As for #5, there’s a whole chapter supporting that very premise in Women Made Easy.
It’s really great that people are sharing this information.
I liked this. Especially the “Man Haters” section. I’ve actually asked myself that question several times and never came up with an answer.
Seriously, though, ladies, if you truly hate men, you cannot stand any man, you think all men are liars, cheaters, backstabbers, rapists, or murderers, and you also believe that men are irredeemable pieces of shite, I have to ask, why are you dating men in the first place?
Sure, there’s the Freudian loop argument, where someone does something to further reaffirm and justify feelings felt toward a certain type of trauma, but that in and of itself does not justify doing something that, for all intents and purposes, is a lost cause. I’m even betting in those cases, if you truly hate men to that extent, no man ever is going to exist that could ever prove you wrong so there’s no point in trying. So why do you do it? I cannot fathom this logic gap!
And that is my mini-rant of the day.
Most of the ‘man-haters’ I know are actually just bitter because they’ve never been loved in a healthy way. Sometimes it’s easier to just ‘hate’ than to take a good look at changing yourself.
I also know a number of men like this, they hate woman because they’ve been treated so badly usually by more than just one women. They’re actually really sad people and you have to walk over broken glass to try and prove to them your genders ok, just not worth it
Exactly. In many cases it’s a protection mechanism, basically.
now about man haters and I am still talking about the same girl above(girl meaning not a woman). She brags about her single girl friends who were just smarter than the men they dated and how these men didnt stack up to their expectations. That should have been a red flag for me, now in hindsight.
I’m on OK Cupid now and have met some great people. But compared to other sites, women tend to ramp up the “edginess” factor on OKC that embodies one or many of the seven. Now I like a woman that has some edge to her in humor, competitiveness, and independent thought, but there are a lot of women that are so edgy it’s like they are wrapped in razor wire. I don’t know how many dates they get, but it can’t be many with a quality man.
Some highly intellectual women, that are more intelligent than the most people, find themselves being rejected from potential male partners. That might happen if she does an enormous effort to point out numerous logical faults in what a man is saying. But anyone makes small errors from time to time, so there is always plenty of errors to point out. But it is socially uninteresting. And when such woman feels left out and rejected, she misinterprets.
The misinterpretation goes like this: “Many men are afraid of an intelligent woman”.
That may be the case a few times. But the truth is that most men can very well handle an intelligent woman, it might be interesting, but does she think it is interesting to point out 17 or 27 small faults in his words during a very short time? That is just as bothering as pouring a bucket of cold water in his face. It is socially uninteresting.
“Fine. Be my guest. But you won’t exactly impress most men with that philosophy. Most are naturally masculine and are therefore magnetically drawn to femininity.”
On the other hand… It is said that many men are far less masculine these days… so maybe they’re on to something? I don’t agree but I love being the devil’s advocate. Some might argue I just love being a devil. They might be right.
On 3: simply because they can prove their point. You know, most people do have this need to be right about SOMETHING! It’s just they choose the wrong something to be right about. So they’re right and wrong at the same time. Apparently that IS possible (‘social quantum physics’?). Ironically (well, sort of ironic – depends on how you look at it) they fit in to 6 and 7 at the same time. Possibly 1 and 2 also (but they might be a bit more positive because they know deep down they are right – men are indeed all bad so there is something to be happy about, right?)
I just wish Ull give me a heads up couple years earlier, Scott. I had to figure it out the hard way n it sucks! Like when I was pulled over by a female cop while I was on a speaker phone with my ex, she heard a female voice at 2am n went histerical! The cop let me go, said-“Idk what’s goin on here, but I don’t wanna be in a middle of it!”. Priceless!!!
Scott ,
Loved your email article on average women acting like they are godessses…here in the UK even ugly mingers think they are hot stuff. You are right about too many men feeding their over inflated ego’s. Even a totally mediocre woman can easily get a man if she so wishes , whilst men have to bring a hell of a lot to the table to even be considered for a date. I’m married BTW , but this is based on observations. Keep these good articles coming !!
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