Why Cold Approaches Are So Last Century

“Day game is my domain” he told me as we sat down for some lunch. My friend was known in our circle as a day game purist, with a style much different from mine.

He seemed to have an “on/off” switch.

Today, he planned to flip his “on” switch and had set aside this time to go sarging.

I was intrigued.

Had he established some kind of “anchor” where he would touch his arm and become “super-sarge”?

We finished our lunch and he led the way. I am glad he was leading because I had a lot on my mind and wasn’t really in a social mood. I was intrigued to see this “switch” being flipped.

Suddenly he stopped.

“What are we doing?” I asked.

“Looking for targets.”

We waited in the high traffic area watching people roll by. Yeah, we saw hot women.

 

 

But none of us did anything.

We had stalled. What started out as a relaxing Saturday afternoon hanging out had turned into a pressure cooker.

While I did not approve of my friend’s approach, I am not speaking ill of day game.

I think its great. It really puts hair on your chest and gives you big balls.

You also get the women that have got more going on in their life than to hang out at a “meat market” and wait to get hit on like a lamb at the slaughter (pun intended).

My main point is that “sarging” should not become a hobby in and of itself. Something else should.

When a woman asks you about your passions you’d probably avoid telling her that “sarging” is what you enjoy on the weekends. You’d likely do nothing to build rapport that way as you’d not have so much common ground (unless she also enjoys hunting for women).

Never underestimate the power of a hobby to turn your life around.

A few months ago, I took up salsa dancing. Yeah, I did it to meet more women but also to step outside my comfort zone (I am a punk from way back).

And you know what, sure, I met heaps of women and now I have a new outlet in which to meet women (i.e. salsa clubs).

But I can honestly tell you even if none of the women in my salsa class were hot, I would still be having a blast.

I understand this may be outside your reality. But it’s true: When you nail those dance steps in time with both the music and your partner it is such an awesome feeling.

Ah…the synchronicity of two bodies…remind you of something else we all like doing?

I’m not saying dance classes are the answer for everyone, but they are great and I will go into the specifics of “dance class game” in a later blog.

Rather, find your passion and immerse yourself in it.

Whatever it may be, bring yourself fully to it so that women are no longer the central focus of your life.

Enjoy playing Halo on your XBox but don’t want to join the armed forces? Join a paintball club.

Always wanted to restore a muscle car but don’t have the money or garage space? Then build model muscle cars until you do.

Have a passion for stamp collecting? Cool, but take up yoga or cooking class also in order to get yourself into a more social atmosphere.

Don’t know what your passions are? Do what I did and try some things that are outside your comfort zone and reality until you make a great discovery.

Here are a few benefits of finding your passions:

1) You will wake up most days with a renewed energy and purpose

I say “most days” because we are only human and are allowed a few “off days”.

2) You will become more attractive to women.

You will become an adventure that they want to be taken on (pun intended).

3) You will never have to go on dedicated sarging missions again…unless you want to.

Looking forward to talking to writing more in the near future. In the mean time, talk to me.

-Hatter

themadhatter@deservewhatyouwant.com

 

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