In today’s post I’m going to try to break down some of the things that I did when I was starting out on this journey that I believe helped me out.
First, I recommend getting some friends/wingmen who are also along this journey.
I met 4 guys early on after I joined a forum. These guys were also from Sydney, and didn’t have that creepy vibe that many guys in the community give out. The advantage of having friends who are on the same, or similar, path as you is that you have someone to just vent with, someone who can push you, and someone you can just chill with.
It is possible to take this journey on your own, but its a hell of a lot more fun when you have like minded guys coming with you. A good place to meet like minded individuals is on www.deservewhatyouwant.com/forum or on the forums at www.pickuppodcast.com where they have a whole section dedicated to finding wingmen.
My second tip was actually given to me by one of my wingmen. Write a blog. There are many places where you can go to write a blog, www.blogspot.com is one example.
I only wish I was told to write a blog at the very beginning of my journey. You can make your blog private, allow just your friends to read it, or have it open for anyone of the public who stumbles upon it to read.
Now there are many advantages to writing a blog. I found that after a night out, or a day time interaction, or after a date or whatever when I got home I would write it all up. I would try to exclude no details, including my thoughts on what I did and suggestions to myself on how I think I could have acted differently.
By doing this it forced me to remember all the little details which we normally gloss over when we just think about what happened. Self-analysing what I had done I feel that helped me get better quicker.
Another advantage of writing a blog (or keeping a journal) is that when you’re feeling down or like you’re not having much success you can have a read back through it and realise, “hey, I’m actually meeting a lot of women” or “wow, I’ve gone from getting phone numbers and flakes, to now getting dates.”
I would always let my mates know when I had posted a new blog post, so they could take a look. The reason for this was that knowing they were reading it kept me honest with my writing and kept me motivated to keep going out and getting new experiences.
If you start a blog and you’re wanting to let other people in the community read about it, post it on the forums over at www.deservewhatyouwant.com/forum. I’m keen to see how you all are progressing with your game.
Finally, my 3rd tip. I recommend getting your hand on as much info to start out with as possible. Take a peek at every product, coach, guru, blog and podcast. By doing this you will find one or two companies who you feel really resonate with you and where you want to get to with women and your life. Then, once you have narrowed it all down to the one or 2 companies/programs/coaches then focus on them.
Personally, I looked at heaps of programs and methods. I feel it’s like test driving a car. My friend may like Fords, my other friend might like Toyotas. Does that mean I need to buy either of those cars? Not necessarily.
Look around, find what you like and drive that one out of the show room. For me personally I found all of Scot’s podcasts awesome (The Chick Whisperer, X & Y On The Fly, and the Mr. Nice Guy show). I also found the Pickup Podcast had some really good stuff, and I listen to them regularly.
Get out there and just have fun guys.
–Dave W.
dave@deservewhatyouwant.com
