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Chick Whispering: Can You Really Figure Women Out?

Chick Whispering by Scot McKay Well, if you’re a guy you can’t exactly crawl inside a woman’s skin and become one in order to find out what’s truly on her mind and what motivates her (at least not usually).

But that’s not to say you necessarily have to be completely lost when it comes to gaining some true insight into understanding women better.

That’s right. You can forget the “old school” thinking that women are a “question surrounded by a quandary, wrapped in an enigma”.

Maybe you’ve lived your entire life assuming there was no chance of figuring women out. I’m here to tell you that you’ve been lied to all this time.

After all, isn’t it true that both genders tend to pronounce their own kind as “simple” and/or “easy to figure out”?

What if all it took this entire time was getting outside of our own desires and agendas and simply taking the time to observe and to process the kind of behaviors and mindsets we see time and time again in women on a regular basis?

Maybe that all sounds complicated, but it doesn’t have to be. I’ve just release an entire package on understanding women better called Chick Whispering. Watch this video for the complete lowdown:

You Can Begin Understanding Women Better...Starting Within The Next Five Minutes

Chick Whispering started out as a 214-page e-book, but has since developed into the definitive program on understanding women featuring ten extra content modules as well. But I’ve still kept the price point at $47.

You’ve said you want more high-quality programs at a price that is accessible to as many guys as possible. Chick Whispering flat-out delivers. And, of course, results are still guaranteed by my unconditional 365 day money-back promise.

Chick Whispering was, of course, sponsored by The Chick Whisperer podcast. Therefore its no coincidence that I got a fresh new episode of the show in the editing stages right now. As fortune would have it, I got one of the most respected women in the world of men’s dating and seduction advice to co-host this show–specifically to talk about this topic: “Are women really so complicated?” Stay tuned…

Be Good,

Scot McKay

New Video Featuring Real-World Success Stories

OK, you know it’s a busy day when a complete, 100% overhaul to the main X & Y Communications website takes second billing.

But that’s the kind of day this is.

After all, we announced a photo contest in the last newsletter for guys, and we’ve chosen the winners. What’s more, we’ve already produced a video featuring the results:

Now for the benefit of you all who aren’t newsletter subscribers (even though you should be) the contest was very simple: Send me your best pic of yourself with a high quality woman.

So you betcha: Every single pic you see in that video above is 100% real and contributed by readers of the newsletter, Twitter followers, podcast listeners and/or Facebook friends.

No models. No actors. Just real-world results from real guys (and the real women who made it possible).

Now if you read tonight’s newsletter, I promised to introduce you to the winners. For sure, everyone who contributed a pic that made it to the video is getting a copy of my newest and yet-to-be-released book Chick Whispering.

But there are two Grand Prize Winners who stood out:

First, there’s Hugo. I kid you not, Hugo must have send me 20 or 25 different “entries”, and every one of them knocked me out.

As you can see from the “boxing gloves” picture below, the knockouts are frequent occurrences, obviously. In case you’re wondering about that pic, by the way, it was a little over-the-top for the video which is why I went with another one of his pics (shown).

But nonetheless, what really got my attention about the “boxing glove” pic was where it was taken. That’s not some sleazy club, gentlemen. That’s his kitchen.

Add in the simple fact that Hugo sent me a ton more like unto these (including that third pic you see here just for good measure), and he walked off with the victory.

Nice job, Hugo.

Next, Hector. “Hector The Collector” to be precise. At least that’s what he refers to himself as in his Internet marketing videos on Facebook.

Well, that’s a first-class hottie that Hector’s hangin’ with in his winning photo. No doubt.

But now it’s time to tell you the real reason why Hector won.

It goes something like this. You see, I have this thing for guys who overcome “limiting beliefs” and/or challenging obstacles that life throws at them.

Hector classifies. According to him, he has lost one hundred and fifty pounds in the last two years or so. He also claims he has “about 50 more to go”.

So if Hector can win with women, what’s your excuse?

Way to go Hector…you’re a winner around here any day of the week.

Great job by everyone who entered. And yes…we’ll be running another contest soon.

Be Good,

Scot McKay

Letter From A Reader: Hugging, Holding Hands, And That’s It [Video]

Recently I received an e-mail from Matt, who has been hanging out with a woman who seems interested in hugging and holding hands…but not a whole lot more than that, if anything. Apparently, based on the letters I receive, this is a problem that lots of guys face at one point or another.

So what gives? Here’s the full message from Matt, along with my response:

Got any comments or stories to share? Let’s hear them!

Be Good,

Scot McKay

Sharpen Your Online Dating Skills Using Twitter [Video Blog]

Let’s face it, guys really know how to mess up their chances with women online.

As a matter of fact, it usually starts with the very first email a guy sends to a woman he’s interested in. And once he’s blown his chances there, it’s nearly impossible to recover.

Well, short of cutting and pasting something that has “proven” to work–for someone else–what’s a guy supposed to do to get past that hurdle?

And ladies, what if you actually get an e-mail from a guy you actually do want to respond to? How do you send the picture-perfect reply without messing up a potentially good thing? After all, how many lame-o messages did you have to sift through to get to that ONE really interesting one?

If you’ve ever wondered about this sort of stuff, I’ve got one word for you: Twitter.

Can you close your eyes and imagine a world where the right words flow naturally from your fingers to the keyboard and glowing, enthusiastic responses from exactly the type of person you want to meet are more the norm than the exception?

It all may not be as far away as you think. If you’ve got ten minutes, I’ve got a solution. Watch this, y’all:

OK, I know you have comments. Will you give what’s in the video a fair shot? Or do you think I got a hold of a hookah full of bad shisha? Either way, talk to me. And let me know what topics you’d like me to hit in future videos, would you?

If you did in fact dig this video, then please Digg this video using the funny looking string of icons below this post.

Also, if you re-tweet this URL I’ll be a happy man. Use the “Tweet This” button below if you prefer. I’ve got nothing but mad love for re-tweeters.

Be Good,

Scot McKay
@scotmckay

How To Have More Fun On Twitter [Video Blog]

OK, so check it out. I realize that you’re probably thinking I must have a firm grasp of the obvious posting a video with a title like this.

After all, shouldn’t everyone be having fun on Twitter automatically? I mean, that should happen by default. Or so you’d think, at least.

Well, even though there are “haters”, nit pickers and even sneaky Amway reps among us, it doesn’t have to harsh your buzz. In fact, I can think of several ways to take your existing level on the Twitter Enjoyment Index (TEI?) and make it skyrocket through the roof…pretty much effortlessly, I might add. Here’s the video. It’s exactly five minutes flat…booyah.

So what did I miss here? Any other ideas on how to make Twitter fun? Sock it to me below, but no…posting “inappropriate” pictures of @emilymckay doesn’t count as an “idea”. But I admire your determination.

By the way, has anyone else ever noticed that people’s demeanor on Twitter tends to match the look on their face in their avatar photos with uncanny accuracy? Come to think of it, I guess that makes me a sly smartass…but an affable sort, at least.

So LOL, will you? I’m trusting you enjoyed this one, and I’ve got more coming soon.

As always, if you liked this particular video, please re-tweet this URL, or use the “Tweet This” button below. I appreciate your help in spreading the good word immensely.

Be Good,

Scot McKay
@scotmckay

Twitter Lingo: The Insider’s Guide To The Language Of Twitter [Video Blog]

Lately we’ve been having a lot of fun on Twitter, which is pretty much the way it should be. One major way we’ve all been amusing ourselves is by inventing “Twitter Lingo”, or creative terms for various stuff that goes on in the Twittersphere.

Invariably, whenever such a term is used anytime after it’s initial identification and definition, people start @messaging wondering what the heck we’re talking about. I can see why. After all, this is all sort of a “secret vernacular” of Twitter being formed here…right before our very eyes.

So clearly it was necessary to put all the newest definitions in one place. At least to some degree, this video is meant to serve that purpose. Sure, I could have just made a written list or something, but how entertaining would that be?

Bear in mind, by the way, that “established” Twitter Lingo (e.g. “Twittersphere”, as used above) isn’t covered in this vid. You can find a comprehensive Twitter Dictionary here or here. The purpose here is to unveil all-original terms of our own.

So here we go. And fasten your seat belts, because I make no apologies for either the Blues Clues or the Michael Buckley references:

Got any “Twitter Lingo” of your own to add? If so, leave a comment below. We’re already in the process of collecting more, and I can’t help but believe that there will be a sequel to this movie in the near future, perhaps featuring such unforgettable gems as “Twitzerland”.

But as for the next post on deck, we’re going to video blog on “How To Have Fun On Twitter”, by request. If you have bright ideas for video topics, you know what to do. Comment below or email me at scot@twiduction.com.

And if you liked this particular video, please re-tweet this URL, or use the “Tweet This” button below. It’s quick and easy, and I greatly appreciate it.

Be Good,

Scot McKay
@scotmckay

Why Follow Everyone Back On Twitter? [Video Blog]

It’s no secret that I personally follow just about everyone who follows me on Twitter. And that’s the way I like it.

Nevertheless, I sometimes get a stray comment here and there to the effect of, “Dude…it’s impossible to ‘follow’ that many people. I mean, there’s like no way you can keep up with all those updates from all those people, man.”

Indeed. But my response to such naysayers is simply this: Your Twitter is too small. If you take a look beyond the surface, there’s an incredible discovery that awaits. Here’s what I mean…

So having watched the video, what say you? I’m all but sure there will be some differing opinions out there, which makes me all the more curious to hear them. Twitter is yet an “emerging” social networking platform, so let’s hear your ideas on the matter.

I already hear someone asking, “Hey, McKay…what about spammers? What about people whose content I find offensive? Do I have to follow them back?” Well the simple answer is, of course, no. And you can also block them from following you. You’re at all times the master of your Twitter domain…literally.

By the way, my auto-follow app of choice is SocialToo.

If you liked the video, please re-tweet this URL or use the “Tweet This” button at the very bottom of this post. I greatly appreciate it.

Next time I post a video blog, we’re going to talk “Twitter Speak”. And we’ll hear from one of our coaches in between. Until then, don’t touch that dial…or, um, the mouse either. Actually, don’t let me discourage you from touching the Dial, especially if that’s the brand of soap you use.

Be Good,

Scot McKay
@scotmckay

How To Get 1000 Twitter Followers In 12 Days [Video Blog]

OK, today I’ve got something that’s clearly a change of pace.

As you know, I’ve been harping on Twitter constantly lately. But that’s for good reason. This is not only the hottest social networking site on Earth at the moment, it’s also arguably the most significant in terms of blasting your online dating success through the roof–directly and indirectly, as subscribers to the newsletter already know.

In the real world, there are as many reasons to get geeked over Twitter as there are people on Twitter.

In fact, many (if not most) of you reading probably are not regular visitors to this blog, and linked here through something Twitter related as opposed to dating related.

So on with it.

Here’s the thing. Since New Year’s Day I’ve gone from 1000 followers on Twitter to almost 2200 as we speak.

And I’m convinced you can do it too.

I know what you’re thinking. Either, 1) “Yeah, but you’ve got a gazillion people on your mailing list”, or… 2) “Prove it.”

Well, if you’re of the former category consider that it took just under a year to get to 500 around here, so something had to change to make the spike happen.

And if you’re of the latter category? Well then, you’re just going to have to watch this 21-minute video, where I spill all the details:

Something tells me I’d better brace myself for some comments on this. Go ahead and tell me what’s on your mind.

And before we wrap up, here are a few notes I’ve thought about since the movie was recorded:

1) Yes…you can “piggy back” the basic strategy, in turn leveraging the recent timelines of those you link to from your own.

2) Yes…instead of one big session per day you can run several different quick sessions during the course of a day, just as long as you can keep a handle on non-followers as described.

3) And…just in case it wasn’t implicit, I agree 1000% with what the “Twitter gurus” say: You’ve got to be interesting, helpful and engaging when you “tweet” or else everyone is going to get a clue and unfollow you despite your best laid plans. In other words, what I’ve presented in the vid is a good way to get followers, but keeping them is up to you.

Maybe we’ll do a video on that last point later.

But for now, go on Twitter and getchasum. And always remember, as the video says, if you’re just “collecting followers” you’re missing the point. Join in the conversation, follow people with interests you as yet know nothing about, expand your horizons and–most of all–make lots of new friends.

And if you are interested in Twitter as a dating site, what you’ve seen in this video takes the idea of gaining quick social proof to the ultimate level, huh?

By the way, if you liked this and thought it was helpful, please re-tweet by using the “Tweet This” button at the very bottom of this post. Greatly appreciated!

Be Good,

Scot McKay
@scotmckay

Online Dating: Loaded Down With Questions [Video]

OK, here’s yet another video blog for you, loaded down with online dating tips just for you.

And appropriately as such, this particular video considers what to do when someone you’ve just met starts loading you down with questions….

So tell me, I bet you can relate to this one, can’t you? Let’s hear your stories!

Be Good,

Scot

P.S. Tomorrow we’ll hear from new X & Y Communications coach Joseph Jensen for the first time. His style is a unique one, so get ready for something completely different for sure.

Online Dating: More Than Just A Pretty Face? [Video]

I think we’ve all seen those online profiles where the woman automatically assumed that she was enough of a “hottie” that her pictures were all that was necessary. The rest of the profile is essentially blank as a sheet, with the possible exception of a stray line to the effect of, “Hey, you’ve seen the pics and u know u like…now holla at ur girl!”

Well, here’s the suitable response to all of this from the nation known worldwide as “Deservewhatyouwantland”…

Be honest with me.

Guys: Have you ever found a high-quality woman with the “whole package” from a profile like that?

Ladies: Have you ever met anyone other than the “sex-focused” type–“Mr. Nice Guy” included–having published a profile like that?

Be Good,

Scot

P.S. Yeah, I’ve gotten a haircut since. Thanks for asking, “taurusmoxie” dude on YouTube.

P.P.S. MASSIVE announcement coming next…stay tuned.

Tap That: How Does Alcohol Affect Your Game? [Video]

You hit a bar or club, get a few drinks in you and you’re Superman with the women.

What’s up with that? Better yet, can you “bottle that up” and take a sip elsewhere…like during the day or even online?

It’s been a while…so here’s a video blog to brighten your day. Through the lips, over the gums…look out stomach, here it comes…

So what’s the deal? There’s gotta be some stories to share here. Let ’em rip…

Be Good,

Scot

Understanding Women: Does The Car You Drive Matter? [Part Two][Video]

Now it’s time for the second part of that two-part video blog series on “The Car You Drive”.

Last time we talked about your car’s condition and upkeep.

In this segment, you’ll get the lowdown on what the style of car you drive says about you. And what’s the deal–Are there really “girl cars” and “guy cars”?

Watch and discover…and laugh too, if you’re in a good mood:

I sincerely hope these two vids have been of benefit to you. Actaully, if they’ve even been a tiny shred of value to you, please bookmark this on Del.icio.us or Digg it, using the convenient icons below.

And for something extra-Diggable, check back in a couple of days. I’m going to list my top ten cars for people with a successful dating life.

After that, you’ll be getting a load of my top ten dating/seduction resource sites on the Internet. Prepare for something completely different there, no doubt.

Be Good,

Scot

Online Dating: “Fence Sitters” [Video]

OK, this time around we’re going to talk about “Fence Sitters”.

Anyone who has ever been online and succeeded at getting some interaction going with MOTOS knows exactly what I’m talking about.

You start typing to someone via e-mail, and they try to put off taking things to the phone for as long as possible. And actually meeting? That could take months or even years based on some people’s timelines.

So what’s up with that? Watch the vid and find out:

Got any “fence sitter” stories or anything to add in general?

Be Good,

Scot

Online Dating: How Come My E-mails Aren’t Getting Answered? [Video]

Time for another video blog.

One of the most sobering facts that guys in particular face when getting started with online dating is that women simply do not flood their inboxes with e-mails like they may have hoped in their fantasies.

Further, even when taking the bull by the horns and proactively writing to women, the response rate can be disarmingly low.

Find out in this video how widespread this issue is, what “average” performance really looks like, and some of the reasons why e-mails don’t get answered.

Here’s a hint: Things aren’t always what they seem…

Next time we’ll tackle the fourth and final part of that series on breakups: How to end long-term relationships.

Be Good,

Scot

Online Dating: Match.com’s New “Match Your Friends” Feature [Video]

Hello All:

Last time you got my rant on eHarmony. Well, as you’re about to find out, as much of a “Match.com Apologist” I am, it’s time for “equal time”.

And for sure, Match isn’t completely off the hook by any stretch.

Here’s the latest evidence…

First it was “If you completely fail at online dating for six full months, we’ll give you more of the same.” Now we have this gem.

So what’s your take? Would you let your friends choose your dates?

Would you get “testimonials” from your friends (or exes?) and put them on your profile? That’s the other new feature of Match.com–which I conveniently forgot to mention in the video.

Be Good,

Scot

P.S. For your trouble in having to deal with their shenanigans (and mine), I think you deserve 15% off when you join Match.com. I can make that happen for you:

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Online Dating: My Rant On eHarmony [Video]

A warm welcome to the second video blog in the latest series dealing with Online Dating.

By now, you know that I’m generally a good-natured guy. So I figure that I’ve built enough “emotional capital” with you that I can indulge myself in a good, old-fashioned rant or two now and then.

With that in mind, what better place to turn than eHarmony. (or is that, “eHarm-Me”?)

OK, well…enough of an intro. I’m already getting carried away. I’ll let the video do the talking.

But did I mention that eHarmony actually rejects over 20% of it’s applicants without explanation…after they’ve spent over an hour completing the questionnaire? To me that’s gotta feel kind of like losing a hard-earned Word document to the “blue screen of death” before hitting “save”.

Wait…I have to throw in that if you are a guy under 5’7″ they’ve already predetermined that you’ll get rejected, since–after all–you’re “unmatchable” (read about it here, on eHarmony’s own server under “The Chemistry Factor” section.

Okay, okay. It’s time for the video. Really this time…

So what are your experiences with eHarmony? Are yours different than mine? Share your point of view by leaving a comment.

At 5’7″, I guess I made the cut (FYI, 5’6″ does indeed get rejected, as noted here).

I was set up with women 2000 miles away who were the exact opposite of what my preferences stated (including smoking habits and spiritual beliefs). In fact, my “potential soulmates” were literally all over the map–literally and figuratively.

So after systematically rejecting my allotment of ten per day (?) for the first few days in a row, I asked customer service about all of this.

The response? “Well,” they said matter-of-factly, “why didn’t you just limit your responses to your own metro area?”

Go figure. When you actually fall for their plaintive exhortation to “not limit your geography…this is your soulmate we’re talking about here!”, what happens? They lead with Sacramento, California and Nampa, Idaho when they actually had “the girl next door” in their back pocket all along. Great.

As it turned out, my “soulmates” in San Antonio didn’t cut it either. The one that was interesting I had already met…on Match.com!

OK, then.

Lest I be branded a “Match.com apologist” by the masses, I’ll give you my “rant” on them next time around! It’s all in good fun.

Be Good,

Scot

Online Dating: Kicked Off The Island [Video]

As promised, here we go with another round of video blogs.

In between installments on that series about breakups we’re on, how about some more online dating tips you can actually use in the real world?

Have fun with this one, because just about everyone can relate to it. If you’re even marginally involved with online dating–or especially if you’ve been frustrated thus far by it–I think it’s going to lift a load off your shoulders…big time.

A shout to the guys at Fly Racing, who gave me the shirt off their back…literally.

Back atcha next time with Part Two of our series on breakups. Don’t touch that dial…

Be Good,

Scot McKay

Lose The Exclamation Point…And Be Proud [Video]

OK gentlemen, it’s time for another video blog.

And this time I’m going to talk about pickup strategy. Yes, even in the world of character-based seduction it’s absolutely still crucial to have game when approaching women.

Amazingly, I’ve never seen or heard the subject of this video talked about. Here’s a hint: It’s not always “what to say next” (which I’m asked about constantly) but HOW to say it.

Be sure to watch the entire vid, though, because just for good measure I’m going to share with you a simple four-word phrase that you actually CAN use verbatim which helps you master the key principle of this video until it becomes habit…and beyond.

And ladies, all of this is golden for you also.

So what do you have to say about all of this? Leave your comments…I don’t ask for those nearly enough around here.

Next time, we’ll have real-life demo of how (and how not) to write first-emails to the absolute sharpest women online. Don’t miss it.

BTW, how’s your phone game coming along these days? And text messaging…is it helping you or hurting you out there? This month’s Power Sessions For Men program is an hour and twenty minutes of non-stop practical info on “Telecom Game”. What’s the hot phone set-up for success with women? How do you handle getting numbers and then putting those numbers to good use? How do you handle voice mail? And what’s the right way to handle phone conversations with women you are already seeing on a regular basis? Best of all I give you step-by-step tutorial on how exactly to make women incredibly worked up (in the best way possible) over the phone. As for texting, I’ll show you how not to ruin a perfectly good relationship with text messaging (like so many guys do) along with world-championship caliber text flirting strategy.

There’s more but that last paragraph was already too long. Just click here for all the info on Power Sessions. Or, I’ll give you the “Telecom Game” Power Session for free with any purchase as a one-month trial membership.

Be Good,

Scot

The Real Reason Why Women Will Stay With An Idiot/Jerk But Not A “Nice Guy” [Video]

As much as this particular topic is discussed, a part of me is surprised that what I talk about in the video below has NEVER been mentioned anywhere as far as I’ve seen.

We all know women cannot bring themselves to be attracted to Mr. Nice Guy. Yet it seems that Idiot/Jerks (or “I/Js”) practically never get the “JBF” talk. Perhaps the answer to why this tends to be the case has more to do with what women are like than with what the guys involved are like.

Push play below to see what I mean…

Next time, I’ll be posting Part Two of how to make your online profile narrative stand out from the rest.

Be Good,

Scot

Handle Approach Anxiety: Courtesy Of The “Above Ground” Seduction Community [Video]

There’s at least one major benefit of not being “underground”.

And it’s not necessarily that the beaches are better.

It does, however, have everything to do with getting over approach anxiety. Find out what can only happen in broad daylight…all in this latest video-blog:

There are yet more v-blogs already in the can and waiting their turn. I’ll be posting them soon.

But next time we’ll cover a massive “one-two punch” for online dating profile success. More precisely, we’ll unveil a tandem of online dating strategies so powerful that when used in synchronicity they can take you from “writer’s block” to “world champion” so fast you might get whiplash.

Sound complicated? Nah…we’ll explain it the easy way. Stay tuned…

Be Good,

Scot