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Rejection And The Rules Of Approach [Part One]

Two limiting beliefs come to mind for me in night game, and any time overall, really.

These involve rejection and the so-called rules of approach. Too many times we wrap ourselves up in both of these things with certain stigmas and beliefs and end up adding way too much to the whole thing.

Rejection: In my opinion, rejection is your greatest tool to learn how to move forward. Yet, society shows and tells a different story.

We have seen it, right? Guy goes up to girl, drink is thrown. This is so rare in reality, but guys really do think it will happen.

More realistic is this scenario. Guy talks to girl, girl blows off guy. Guy goes and complains about it to his buddies, they say, “Well you tried.” Guy goes home and feels self pity and complains more…to himself.

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How To Deserve What You Want By Being Yourself

The concept of deserving what you want is the fundamental one in this community. But let me ask you a question. How do you understand this concept?

See, some time ago I caught myself thinking that I constantly worked on developing myself in order to deserve great women in my life. Like an athlete preparing for a competition, or a soldier getting ready for a war.

I thought to myself: “Just do one more thing (whatever it was), and I’ll be ready to meet quality women out there!”

And by doing this I was, in fact, staying in my flat most of the time. Not meeting women, not having dates, not enjoying women’s company…because I thought I was not good enough yet to meet them!

And this was a big mistake on my part…

I remember how my friend once said to me: “It is much easier to get what you really want then what you think you can get.” But the thing is that most people go for what they think they can get. So there is a lot of competition for mediocrity, for the second best.

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Train Game

Many guys spend way too many hours every year catching public transport, trains, buses, subways, ferries, etc. I used to have a 45 minute train trip every day to get to work, and 45 minutes on the train getting home.

That’s a lot of time.

On many of my trips I would see beautiful women, and I am sure you are in a similar situation. The question that was always on my mind was “How can I go and talk to her?”

Well I’m going to try to break it down for you guys today.

First, read back to my first post on Personal Brand Identity. This should help you get all your things in order.

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A Pickup Line Is No Longer A Pickup Line If SHE Started It

Cheesy Pickup Line Lately I’ve been coaching more guys on how to succeed at online dating than ever before, and time and again I encounter something that amazes me.

I think we could all agree that using cheesy pickup lines are decidedly not the best strategy when it comes to approaching women. In fact, they’ve kind of become a running joke.

But when our attention turns to the online dating world, something fascinating happens.

Most of what guys are being taught in terms of sending first emails to women seems oddly familiar.

Yeppers…you got it. “Cut and paste templates designed to promote banter and therefore create rapport” is really long for “pickup lines”.

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Why Cold Approaches Are So Last Century

“Day game is my domain” he told me as we sat down for some lunch. My friend was known in our circle as a day game purist, with a style much different from mine.

He seemed to have an “on/off” switch.

Today, he planned to flip his “on” switch and had set aside this time to go sarging.

I was intrigued.

Had he established some kind of “anchor” where he would touch his arm and become “super-sarge”?

We finished our lunch and he led the way. I am glad he was leading because I had a lot on my mind and wasn’t really in a social mood. I was intrigued to see this “switch” being flipped.

Suddenly he stopped.

“What are we doing?” I asked.

“Looking for targets.”

We waited in the high traffic area watching people roll by. Yeah, we saw hot women.

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“And That’s Why I Don’t Eat Shrimp”

I'll eat THIS kind of shrimp, don't get me wrong.

Are you an NBA fan? If you watched the playoffs, then no doubt you saw the T-Mobile commercial where Charles Barkley is constantly calling D-Wade. Hilarious stuff, particularly when Chuck inanely spouts, “That’s why I don’t eat shrimp.”

Well, despite all the marketing hype in the Seduction Community about pulling the youngest hotties possible (especially if you’re an older guy), that’s pretty much how I feel about dating eighteen or nineteen year old girls, even if they are “legal”.

And for those of you who might be assuming that this is all a function of my current age, I’ve pretty much viewed the universe this way since I was 21, with a few scattered exceptions.

Not coincidentally, you see, at 21 years of age is when a guy in the United States (like me) can finally order a beer.

It’s not that the younger girls aren’t often really, really hot…you and I both know they are.

The deal is that it’s unnecessary to go through the inconvenience and hassle of dating them.

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Tap That: How Does Alcohol Affect Your Game? [Video]

You hit a bar or club, get a few drinks in you and you’re Superman with the women.

What’s up with that? Better yet, can you “bottle that up” and take a sip elsewhere…like during the day or even online?

It’s been a while…so here’s a video blog to brighten your day. Through the lips, over the gums…look out stomach, here it comes…

So what’s the deal? There’s gotta be some stories to share here. Let ’em rip…

Be Good,

Scot

How To Date Taller Women

I’ve been getting numerous requests for some info on this topic lately.

And I’ll tell you, what was supposed to have been a blog post grew into a full-scale Special Report. There has not been nearly enough written on this subject, so I did it up right. Pickup, seduction, relationship management. It’s all in there, fellas.

Since writing it all down I’ve polished up the finished product and made it available to you for FREE right here.

By the way, even if you’re 6’2 and interested in dating WNBA centers, this is for you.

Enjoy.

Next time, more VIDEO…

Be Good,

Scot

Lose The Exclamation Point…And Be Proud [Video]

OK gentlemen, it’s time for another video blog.

And this time I’m going to talk about pickup strategy. Yes, even in the world of character-based seduction it’s absolutely still crucial to have game when approaching women.

Amazingly, I’ve never seen or heard the subject of this video talked about. Here’s a hint: It’s not always “what to say next” (which I’m asked about constantly) but HOW to say it.

Be sure to watch the entire vid, though, because just for good measure I’m going to share with you a simple four-word phrase that you actually CAN use verbatim which helps you master the key principle of this video until it becomes habit…and beyond.

And ladies, all of this is golden for you also.

So what do you have to say about all of this? Leave your comments…I don’t ask for those nearly enough around here.

Next time, we’ll have real-life demo of how (and how not) to write first-emails to the absolute sharpest women online. Don’t miss it.

BTW, how’s your phone game coming along these days? And text messaging…is it helping you or hurting you out there? This month’s Power Sessions For Men program is an hour and twenty minutes of non-stop practical info on “Telecom Game”. What’s the hot phone set-up for success with women? How do you handle getting numbers and then putting those numbers to good use? How do you handle voice mail? And what’s the right way to handle phone conversations with women you are already seeing on a regular basis? Best of all I give you step-by-step tutorial on how exactly to make women incredibly worked up (in the best way possible) over the phone. As for texting, I’ll show you how not to ruin a perfectly good relationship with text messaging (like so many guys do) along with world-championship caliber text flirting strategy.

There’s more but that last paragraph was already too long. Just click here for all the info on Power Sessions. Or, I’ll give you the “Telecom Game” Power Session for free with any purchase as a one-month trial membership.

Be Good,

Scot

The Chick Whisperer #18 — Defining Relationships And Making Solid Decisions

I finally got my act together and released Episode #18 of The Chick Whisperer podcast last night. This must mean we’re “legal”. Were things only that uncomplicated…LOL

My co-host for this one is my good friend Frank B. Kermit. Frank and I have something in common. We’re each married to our own respective version of the greatest woman we’ve ever met.

So we got together, answered one of your voicemails and proceeded to throw down on the subject of having complete, total control over your world when it comes to women. You may need a shot or two of good ol’ Patron Silver after you hear what we’ve got in store for you.

After all, it’s time to stop listening to the hype over what someone else thinks you should want from your relationships with women and make your own decisions from a position of strength.

And check it out–you have more options than you think. It’s time to man up and exercise them. Guys like Frank and I have your back all the while, no doubt.

So getchasum. In fact, if you hit the graphic above and “subscribe” on iTunes that would rule…especially if you leave us a review. It’s YOU the listeners who have moved us up the charts again into a firm spot on the front page in our iTunes category. Right on.

And don’t forget, I have a special unsyndicated bonus episode with Brent Smith tucked away for newsletter subscribers. Get on board at www.thechickwhisperer.com .

Be Good,

Scot